I've been a bit nostalgic for my boy's younger years. He was a mellow, curious little boy who wanted not much more than his Legos and Matchbox cars, and opportunities to be near the water. I've raised him on my own since the day he was born. We've been a team since day 1. In caring so deeply for another, I have learned an indescribable amount about myself. I've developed a fairly refined patience that has served me well in my work. I've learned how to be brave, and that it's okay to listen to my gut and not feel obligated to follow the advice of those who insist they know better. I'm a better person because of my child.
Now, he's 12 and in junior high school. He likes computers, photography and videography, spending time with animals, and classic rock. One of his teachers recently told me that what he appreciates most about my boy is that he isn't afraid to be himself. In the end, I think that is what I am most proud of.
Fortunately, he's still fond of his Legos, Matchbox cars, and being near the water. 🙂
I see that you also are a single mother, like I am. This bond: It is not understandable by others. I get you.
He is still small but it's true, when my child was at this age (or 11?...🤔) I FELT my heart begin to rip. Literally I was hurting for years. I was soooo sad.
I missed the cuddles, movies times(we'd go to the theatre in the mall. I would bring our own popcorn, drinks and snacks: you sorta have to smuggle them into the theatre ;) ROFL!), snuggles, bedtime reading (every day!:) ) all the paces we'd go! And we did a lot of FUN and cool stuff. Every year, a different Birthday cake, made by yours truly. (Oh wow. I am tearing up now!!!) Thank God/dess I took many photos.
I noticed with my too oldest (boys) When the voice deeps it’s a sign and they seek external validation more from friends... They can grow outwards from us but they usually come back to orbit at least
Mine is a younger 12 year old. The voice hasn't quite gotten there yet. All I can hope for is that he follows his internal compass. There will be moments, I know, but hopefully the waters will settle quickly.
