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I Am Annoyed

At my sister who lives with me. The kid has no sense of self preservation. If I'm at work all day, she stays on the couch talking to people on facebook. She doesn't do anything productive (like, say, look for a job). She can enjoy her summer. I'm fine with that. But she also doesn't eat unless food is put in front of her. She doesn't keep hydrated throughout the day. She doesn't take care of basic needs while she's by herself.
The bitterest part of me recalls that I've always taken care of myself because no one else was going to, and that it's unfair of her (and very much like our dad) to expect someone else (me) to care for her. She can't force me to take care of her. I can't force her to take care of herself. She'd better figure things out because I'm [i]really[/i] not going to dictate to her everything she needs to take care of every day and when to eat and hydrate. I'm not going to stand over her shoulder and make sure she's trying to do something with her life. She needs to do that on her own. Apparently she's been having health problems all month. She just doesn't take care of herself at all. It's ridiculous. I'm leaving her to find a doctor but I doubt she'll even try.
nojudging61-69, M
At some stage she has to take responsibility. You can only lead the horse to water, so to speak. But if she doesn't take responsibility be careful that you don't get suvked into the trap of having to care for her. All the best. 馃槉
updown202061-69, M
Well you are not the ywca things cost money life is not free. You are not helping her by doing everything for her that's how you far into her trap. It like this you live here that's fine but you must pull your weight around here you are to look for work help around the house and if you cannot do those things well sorry you cannot live here. Yes its cruel but how else will she learn to do things for herself? Do you want her living with you for ever and you taking care of her like she's your daughter?.
SW-User
Thanks, nojudging. I'll have to give her some time and see what she does. If it's going to keep effecting her health, I have to do something. Not sure what yet though.
nojudging61-69, M
You are potentially in a a no win position which will probably take some time to resolve. I hope it goes well for you. 馃槉
updown202061-69, M
Oh really why not? How else is she going to learn to take care of herself and make a living?
updown202061-69, M
Well no I read what you wrote again and I still stand by what I wrote. You need to deliver some tough love,
SW-User
updown2020, I meant my comment. I was saying I agreed and that not doing so wouldn't be doing her any favors.
SW-User
No worries. It's good advice. She has to learn sometime how to handle her own life. Now is a good time.
SW-User
updown2020, absolutely not. And that really wouldn't be doing her any favors.
SW-User
updown2020, I think you misunderstood what I said.
updown202061-69, M
Oh maybe it possible I read too fast sometimes.
updown202061-69, M
Oh sorry

 
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