I'm Just Sayin'

As appreciative as I am of the support I get from those that do like me, I shouldn't take it to heart too much. After all, most of the people who are expressing praise for me don't actually know me that well and their opinions might change drastically once they did. Such is the way it usually goes for me: they like me at first, then they get to know me a little better, then they don't. Even those who do know me and still like me, there's no telling it's going to stay that way. I may outlive my usefulness to them or end becoming more of an inconvenience than a close friend before even they realize it. They might disagree and say they'll never stop liking me but I'm sure the close friends I've had that this has happened with thought the same at some point. 🤷‍♀️

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PoetryNEmotion · F

You must stop this. This negativity about the value of your friendship and of your heart, Carver. I am confident in saying you are in error. Do drink of the cup of self-worth. Or go find it. You are a good, decent person. What has happened to make you feel so sadly and so negatively on your friendship? Did you not have friends as a child? Are you shy? What IS the problem?

Carver · 31-35, F

@PoetryNEmotion Well, like I've said, people like me until they get to know me. Even those who really take an interest in me suddenly lose interest and/or actually dislike me once they get to know me better. Even a close friend I had for over a year ended up valuing me less. I do my best to be friendly and engaging but it doesn't always amount to anything because I can't keep friends. I'm just not likable once you really get to know me.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@Carver I find this hard to believe. I don't believe it. I don't know you much here, but I have seen nothing that makes me think you are undesirable as a friend. Not even a hint. I feel you are too hard upon yourself. Some, like you, take longer to make real friends than other people do. It is fine. Just take that time. The error is upon your "friends" and not with you, Carver.

Turtlepower · 36-40, M

I guess it's a double edged sword. You think people won't continue to like you over they truly get to know you, but they'll never get the chance if you don't let them, but if you don't let them, then they can't hurt you. Sounds like a paradox.

Carver · 31-35, F

@Turtlepower It is. But the latter options is more beneficial for both parties. I don't get hurt and they don't get disappointed.

Turtlepower · 36-40, M

@Carver I think the only true benefit is you don't get hurt. The cost is two people don't get a chance at being great friends :)

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Carver · 31-35, F

@seeandhear Yeah, I try. Thanks.

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