Only logged in members can reply and interact with the post.
Join SimilarWorlds for FREE »

I Would Rather Be Alone Than Be With the Wrong Person

It's time for me to put myself first. I've given this a good run. It's been 7 months and I'm still unhappy. I prioritized a relationship over my own feelings and tried to make something work that I wasn't even sure I wanted from the beginning.

It's time to take a break now. It's time to breathe and return to myself.

I think at this point I owe it to myself and to him to leave. By remaining in the relationship I am injuring myself and growing in resentment toward him. I am continuing to plan my goals and plans around a life I don't want. I am forgetting who I am, sacrificing things I love, and isolating myself from the people that I used to hangout with... all to please this person. All so that our relationship can work.

Ugh... can someone just write a post about what I healthy relationship dynamic looks like? I need help.
Yeah if you've given 7 months and you're not happy still then it's time to go.

A healthy relationship should be a friendship and a partnership.
You take care of them (and here's the important part) they take care of you too.
It's ok to sacrifice [i]some[/i] things for your partner but certainly not your own happiness and it shouldn't be one-sided. You put them first and they put you first.

When you fight, remember that, that person is not your enemy so fight fair, don't say things to hurt and don't hold grudges.
Clear communication is key even if it feels a bit uncomfortable.

I dunno, just a few thoughts there.
SW-User
I wish I could tell you but I’m still learning myself. I can empathise though because I was in your shoes over two years ago.
wtfgirl001 · 31-35, F
@SW-User Not a fun place to be. I'm glad you were able to get out of that place as well.
It seems to me you've got all the answers. You know what happened, you know what you need to do.

Fall in love with your SELF. If you're looking for a soul mate, mate with your soul. You'll see the reflections of those things in the people you meet. Your choice will be clear.

 
Post Comment