My life is no ones fault but my own.

Took me a while to see it that way, but for years it felt like others did pave the asphalt as I sat powerless in the driver’s seat. That section of the drive served its purpose though. Now I know that I’m responsible for not only the road I’m on, but for the direction it takes. Sure, there’s detours that have to be taken along the way and obstacles like twister-riding cows that can make moving forward in the direction I want a little tricky, but those moments are seen for what they are and I manage to pause and adjust my route accordingly. When momentarily looking back at the obstacles I clear, I always remember if someone outside of myself caused them...but I focus more on how I overcame them even if I got turned around and that’s changed the whole appreciation of the journey itself.

Yes. It took me awhile to realize my father may have started me down the highway to hell, but it's been my own decisions that kept me there

Others can definitely shape you, just as the "company that you keep".
With that said, individuals are ultimately responsible for themselves and the decisions they make.

This is something that took me awhile to learn. It is also why I don't associate with negative or "high maintenance" people/excuse makers.

It may sound harsh, but it's not intended for that purpose.

An proud of my road ... not so happy with the obstacles .. .. but proud of the road

Being loved, lucky and blessed is what I credit.

Compliments on the paradox question!

Sometimes the choices other people make changed my course, but I’m happy with the decisions I made in response.

certainly i looked back and i always blamed only myself

Blaming is easy.. accepting responsibility is hard.

ultimately how you react to things is your responsibility

but people can do things that have bad consequences

No, I know it’s deserved and earned. Nobody to blame but myself.

You could but that will lead to a depressing road.

Try to focus on the now and make decisions from what you learned in the past. Take control and stop the blaming game in favor of being in charge. It will lead to a more positive life.

I have to self correct by kicking my own ass when I get those thoughts. And realize my life is pretty damn good by most measures. The curse of "grass is greener" is the dark addiction of the brain.

The asphalt they gave me objectively sucked, honestly - at least I'm inferring that from the fact I'm not the only saying it. Therefore, I'm continuing on unpaved road.

I have when I was younger and immature, but now I realize there were situations I didn't need to stay in and things I should have done to change it. So, I take full responsibility and all the lumps life gave me because of it.

Well said!

I blame others for 13- events, everything afterwards was either my own evil or mixed with it.

Brutal honesty on my part. I hauled the truck loads of asphalt I've walked thru life on. Every once in a while, it changes to dirt.

Life goes on.

We are our choices..so , I can’t do it

Clever.😁

No, I am aware that my destiny is at the end of my own decisions.

Daily,

not at all, I chose my paths and even though there were some pretty tough times it all shaped me into who I am now, and I am ok with me

I have. Ownership is important yeah