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I Enjoy Solitude

Sometimes I yearn for solitude. It's so far been easy to find because it's just me and my husband, and our friends all seem to know how to be companionably silent. However, I have a sister who, following a big seizure, has been diagnosed with a brain tumour. She will not be able to live on her own, so she will have to live with us. Despite being quite deaf she refuses to get a hearing aid, on top of which she's a demanding, attention-seeking person. She has no hobbies or interests and cannot immerse herself in a book. Being sensitive to hints, backing off, etc, are not her strong points either, which is a shame because we have a particular lifestyle which I have no intention of spelling out to her. Our house is quite a big one, but only the study is truly off limits. When she visits she follows me around. All in all she isn't easy to be with.

Although I intend to give her a safe space, and know I couldn't live with myself if I didn't do it, I truly dread having my world turned up side down.
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Your life has changed, but the whole world changed for your sis with that diagnosis.

I find it very difficult to deal with noise as well, but in this case her situation is very particular and delicate and probably and sadly, temporary, so try to see it from her point of view.

You are doing a good thing,