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I Want to Be Positive About Life

I feel like in society you cant please anyone, if you love yourself your conceded or high maintenance,and if you have low self esteem your weak. I really have problems with this,I hate myself,I feel ugly. I tell myself I'm grate and beautiful and it never works, when I look in the mirror I feel ugly I feel like I'm lying to myself when I tell myself I'm grate. has anyone had this problem ?,I have been having it for years. I also really hate being single and having no close friends. how do I deal with this?
SW-User
You're right when you say you can't please anyone but I've found if you focus on what you do well, whether you're an artist, lawyer, athlete, whatever.... you'll make your own path through life.
As far as physical looks go we are our own harshest critics especially when it comes to our looks. I personally can't look in the mirror longer than absolutely necessary, but I think you're probably better looking than you think.

It's easy for someone like me to say this because I don't know you but the bottom line is you're better than you think you are.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's not always easy to do.
oh no problem, for me its too easy because i just really need help like therapy or something because i dont feel like I see myself accurately and i need other people's perception to tell me who i am because people precevie me alot different then i preceive myself which makes me wonder what i am actually like. who is right? i just cant friends a friend of boyfriend people constantly are too busy or blow me off and i wonder whats wrong with me, i cant blame it on everyone in my area. so i overshare because i need someone to give me a solution or a plan so i can follow all the steps and become satisfied with my looks and personality.
SW-User
@Girlyfriendcollecting: I wouldn't worry about oversharing .
It's much better than things building up inside you.
Again thanks for sharing
@Girlyfriendcollecting: therapy is a great help, with the right therapist
Megan82 · F
We all have a tendency to see our flaws and ignore our assets, I don't really know you but see you are beautiful smart and studious maybe a bit to serious but that is the mark of a successful person, hang tough, you are going to do very well and love is going to find you!☺
thank you im glad to hear this😊
ASouthernGentleman · 31-35, M
I still have this problem.
You have worth. You are beautiful because there is no else like you.

Have you ever wondered on the meaning of a candle? Strange question. Here is another. What does the candle represent? The answer is Life. Whose Life? One may ask. All life. Every life. We are all born as molecules in the hearts of a billion stars-molecules that do not understand politics, policies, and differences. Over a billion years we foolish molecules forgot who we are and where we came from. In desperate acts of ego we give ourselves names, fight over lines on maps, and pretend that our light is better then everyone else’s. The flame also reminds us that life is precious, as each flame is unique. When it goes out it is gone forever, and there will never be another quite like it.

That which you are, you are, one equal temper of heroic hearts made weak by time and fate but strong in will. To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield.
walabby · 61-69, M
Lots of people have this problem.. It will fade with time...
@walabby its been almost three years cince I posted this, I still feel like this, it hasent even faded a little.
walabby · 61-69, M
@Girlyfriendcollecting Nearly two years, actually, but don't despair, this all takes time. Whereas you should look after yourself physically, mental is more important. Work on your personality, write a list of all the good things about you, ignore the bad.
Life is not easy, but you can make it work for you.
kingofthenorth87 · 36-40, M
Just let go, let the car crash and enjoy the ride in the meantime.

 
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