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I Want to Be Positive About Life

For the last 7years i have had a pinpal. She was my only friends for years, esp during middle school, so when she moved i was sad but we wrote each other. For years. We still do now but in college, she got a boyfriend and before that we used to write each other several times a year.
Now she only writes me once or twice a year. It always happens that way. I respond to her letter and it takes her 6mths to an entire year to get back to me.
She was my bestfriend. I still feel she is in a way.
I had visted her while she we were in high school and she had changed so much. While I still felt like the the middle school band geek having a rough time with puberty.

It ok that she changed but niw shes become distant too. Its kinda sad. I feel like im just waiting for her to stopping responding to ny letters. She always starts the letter with "Sorry for my late reply..." and its usually only a page response to my 3 pages. She never has anything to say.
I feel like she probably doesnt feel as confortable sharing things with me anymore. Thats sad too.

Its ok if we stop talking but it always hurts to lose a friend, even if ive seen it coming fornthe past 4yrs. Or maybe im just being too negative and she does still want to be friends.
But responding to me once or twice a year? And only a page at that. It kinda a sad response to my letters.
Its always nice to get letters from people. I feel like tech is so impersonal but letters a tangible reminders of the friendships i used to have...or of fhe ones that are currently falling apart.
Orpheus · 56-60, M
You're right. It's always sad when friendships drift apart. Someone usually gets hurt, one way or another. However, she's moved on, she's got a boyfriend and I suspect you're holding on to your memories of this girl because you probably thought there may, one day be some romance in it. Never put all your eggs in one basket. I applaud your use of the (one day to be perhaps forgotten) art of letter writing. Now go out and find someone else you can connect with...someone who will truly appreciate your efforts with pen and paper.
@Orpheus That the truth. I rhink it hard to know true joy if youve never experienced true sorrow.
Orpheus · 56-60, M
On a positive note, at least your friend DOES eventually find the time to reply. Sometimes, when someone's all loved up 'n' stuff, the rest of the world takes a back seat for an indefinable period of time, but at least your friend replies. I hope you manage to rekindle your friendship. If not, you seem like a very loyal friend and loyalty is hard to come by, so I have no doubt that you will manage to sustain some valued friendships in the future.
@Orpheus I hope so too. It is better to end on a positive note though.

 
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