I Am Trying To Accept The Things I Cannot Change

This is going to sound like I'm one of those heartless ones, but here goes.

Whatever it is you've been through, unless it's ongoing, is in the past.

I spent many years in and out of psychiatric facilities because I couldn't handle what I'd been through. Finally, when my psychiatrist told me I was hopelessly crazy, and I couldn't be helped, I decided that I refused to be a hopeless case. I stopped allowing myself to wallow in my self pity any longer. And I made myself get healthy, mentally and emotionally.

It took me until I was 50 years old to say enough is enough and make myself better.

Please, don't let yourself suffer as long as I did. No one can make you get over your trauma except you. You can get help, but you're the one who has to actually decide to get healthy emotionally. No one who hasn't been through what you've been through is going to be able to relate to your pain. They might care, sympathize even, but they can't feel your pain, and most won't even be able to imagine it. They'll feel sorry for you....try to comfort you....but then their lives will progress and they'll expect you to put that experience in a box and not expect them to keep thinking about it. It won't stay with them. They'll be surprised if you tell them they're being insensitive, uncaring.

I know, because I was you. I'm certain that our traumas are not the same, but the results are. We have PTSD. Nobody can fix it, except us.

I wish you luck dealing with this, but even more, I wish you strength to handle the memories, and peace of mind to accept them as a part of your past, but know that you are the only one with the power to leave them in the past, and not allow them to destroy your future.

If the trauma you suffered was at the hands of someone you thought you could trust, then know this.....as long as you let the memories destroy you, you are still under their power. They are still victimizing you, and they don't give a damn.

Much love.

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