When I recently lost approx. 14lbs, everyone suddenly loved me..

Maybe they are congratulating you for being healthy, disciplined, and not obsessed with food.

I think some people just genuinely mean to congratulate others on accomplishing something they worked for but I get how it can seem that validation is conditioned by your weight (or how for some people it actually IS conditional) and can just as easily be taken away.

People were happy that you had done something to achieve a substantial goal, and encouraging your success. I'm sure you were just as attractive 14 lbs heavier....

I’ve lost a bunch of weight in the past 8 months or so, and I enjoy the compliments. But I also fully understand what you’re saying too. It’s a tough thing to really take in as you think about the implications.

You must have looked a lot better though, 14lbs is a lot to lose. What did you look like before!

No no no no. It’s just one of those efforts most everyone can relate to. You were beautiful and powerful when you had 14 extra pounds behind your punch, it was just harder to understand exactly what you were hitting. 🤗💞

{@josephinethefox] some peole are really tunnelled visioned . it is not about what you look like . it is not about lose weight makes you more attractive . it you the peron inside that isimportant and your personality

Sadly we live in a world where appearance matters too much and often results in snap judgements about a person.
I don't think that is a modern issue though it's been with us for centuries.

What? 14 lbs got that effect? I guess one way girls get treated differently. I lost 60 and no one really seems to care.. but I feel great.

Not true ... you are of value no matter your weight

Ohh wow 😣 I am sure you were just as attractive with the 14lbs 🥰🥰🥰

It’s a shit world we live in

Bah, I would have still liked you no matter what you weighed. Weight is not an issue. Tis what's inside!