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I Hate It When Someone Doesnt Text Back

Happened to me so many times. the mix of unhappiness, insult and ignorance gets assimilated with the everyday feelings of bitterness. Meh.. Life gives you lemons, people just make it a bigger lemon.
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twistermind · 51-55, F
Perhaps, they have something else to do or they don't know what to write.
In the case they don't want to go on with the friendship, you are lucky. Perhaps, they are not the right ones.
FindRyhan · 36-40, M
Why you have to be nice. Just could have to me that I suck so people dont reply you back. I think I am kind of started liking the ignorance from people.
twistermind · 51-55, F
Because I don't know you and because it's impossible you suck in general. I mean, there will be people you connect with.
Online conections sometimes could be as lasting as a small talk with an unknown person in the street.
And it's true that people can stop writing for many reasons and these reasons depend more on them than you.

I will put you an example. I have the fucking idea that I can bother people so any tiny detail that can make me believe that I'm not welcome and I will put a distance.
Does it depend on you? Clearly, no.
FindRyhan · 36-40, M
@twistermind: I want to get bother... but people don't bother me. Can you imagine Spending saturday and sunday without speaking a single word.. I spend weekends like that.. I go outside walk on the streets see so many people. but I could rarely say Hi to someone.. I don't know what they would think of me.. weird guy from foreign country saying me hi.. hmm what a weirdo or something. Look and appearance does play a vital role for making new friends. So I tried online and only few people show interest. Then they fade away...
twistermind · 51-55, F
@FindRyhan: I understand what you mean now. I only have a friend irl and it's all because I feel comfortable with this person. My lack of confidence prevent me to stablish more conections. On line, I can be a little more myself and don't feel so much pressure, but anyway, I haven't got many contacts either.
Don't let some bad experiences stop you keeing trying it. Perhaps, these people perceive some kind of barrier or signs you are not conscious to show and somehow you are projecting due to self-confidence or some kind of complex.
Or all what I mentioned in my previous posts. Perhaps it's only a matter of them.

Objectively, everyone can make conections with others. Subjectively, you are going to blame yourself as I do with myself.

I understand you. But, something has to be done to overcome these insecurities. But, overall, be yourself. Don't be afraid of this. I'm sure many people are going to like you.
FindRyhan · 36-40, M
@twistermind: I think even trying doesn't help if I am out of my luck. I think my luck is going low now. I need to wait or change my life over at some other place.
twistermind · 51-55, F
It sounds as if you were having problems in the place you are. Am I right?
FindRyhan · 36-40, M
@twistermind: yes my life started to break apart when I moved in to holland.
twistermind · 51-55, F
@FindRyhan: why? Do you feel different?
FindRyhan · 36-40, M
@twistermind: no support my dear. No friends no gf. Lonely life after work. Dutch people are not talkative or welcoming even then language makes a great barrier
twistermind · 51-55, F
So, you feel alone. Perhaps, it's a question of time. Holland people can't be much different to others. Indeed, I know someone here who is from the Netherlands and he is awesome.
So, you think it's more a cause of them or yours?
I tell you because you can put me in whatever place you want and I will find always the same hard time to contact people and socialize.
FindRyhan · 36-40, M
@twistermind: yeah.. I am a bit socially awkward at making first move.