I Love My Husband, But I Am Not In Love With My Husband

I've gone back to school, I've held a 3.969 gpa, done some counseling, joined jujitsu, planned a trip to Australia for a year from now, and lost weight all while my husband does nothing. He sleeps and plays video games. I have to beg him to walk the dog and he throws a fit about it. He can't get along with anyone, which is why he can't hold a job for longer than 2 or 3 months. Then, the part that pisses me off the most is that he tells me I'm not doing anything. He's miserable and he wants me to be too. It wasn't like this until I started doing something with my life. I'm quickly falling out of love with him. I love him and the 10 years of memories I have with him, but I don't know how much longer I can put up with his attitude.

Hotwife3000 · C

Good for you to find your own happiness and success. It is his choice if he wants to join you on such, and if he wants to make a difference in his life. Don't be held on by guilt, and you have a lot of life left. Do you want to be miserable? If he truly loved you, he would find a way to keep a job and not leach off your hard work. I think you have already made your decision, so just do what YOU need so you can lead a happy life.

SW-User

Omg I empathise with u I’m so sorry you’re feeling so blue bc of his choices.

My advice to you is keep on keeping on for yourself and do it to the best of your ability.

Support yourself emotionally too. ( really important one)

I know that sounds tough but you need to depend on yourself bc if a marriage is based on existing off each other then no one is left with anything if that other person goes away mentally or physically.

Best wishes ☀️💫🦋

Fernie · F

Sadly, it might very well be time for you to move on...you've clearly grown past him. He probably won't change. You are at a prime point in your life and should be with someone who appreciates what you have done and who you are. He sounds like a teenager. Is this how you want to live the rest of your life? The resentment will build and build