I Am Stronger Because of All I've Been Through

Tonight I'm not feeling strong. I'm feeling weak and scared. I can't stop crying. I'm usually positive, optimistic and not one to wallow... but, I guess being human I'm allowed to feel this way once in a while.

My husband and I are separated. Currently living in the same house but I need to just get the divorce and move apart. He has a new girlfriend and it is ripping me apart. It's not so much that I want him back but the fact he moved on so quickly. Like the past 22 years with me meant nothing...

Everyone says I will be okay. Most days I believe it... tonight I'm struggling.

One day, some man will see my worth and treasure me. I've always given more than I've gotten. Just once I want to feel what it's like to get that in return...

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urbancowboy · M

You know, sometimes I wish for that too. Someone who loves me for who I am and what I believe. Someone to share those moments with and make each other's dreams come true. I can truly relate

Livingwell · 61-69, M

I'm so sorry you are enduring this. It will get better. My ex already had a boyfriend before she moved out. So moral expectations of some people appear to be quite low. Learn from this experience. Being a giver doesn't mean giving away yourself. Hugs! 🤗

TenderHeart · 46-50, F

Did they end up staying together?

Livingwell · 61-69, M

@TenderHeart: they got married two months later. He divorced her a while later and took a lot of her money. Karma is real..

atlantic59 · 61-69, M

Well put: '...being a giver doesn't mean giving yourself away...'

SW-User

Your heart sounds like it's too strong to just "move on."

You probably need/want a deeper love. Don't dig yourself in a hole thinking it will be easy. Go out there and have fun. Don't want a guy. Want friends. You'll meet good male friends.

Engage but don't attach yourself too deeply. You're wounded. I would say that you should let a new love grow organically... don't go searching for it.

Plenty of men will want to grow that love with you. It might just take some work to find one who is will worthy to root with.

Good luck.

TenderHeart · 46-50, F

I'm trying to just meet people now and create friendships. I'm telling everyone that I don't want to rush... I want it to be natural and let it evolve when it comes to that. Lots of people are in a rush these days it seems...

SW-User

Good luck to you!

jpiper5 · M

It must be almost unbearable. You must have incredibly strength being in this situation.

daydeeo · 61-69, M

I wish you the best. He a fool to throw away 22 years. You deserve better.

atlantic59 · 61-69, M

You will! Everything is too fresh. Living in the same house is pretty hard to move on with. Time is the healer that you have not been given yet. Hang in there and find a good distraction. You have been strongly affronted in this situation, but you can take the high road and come out so much stronger where you emerge.

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