I Am Not Here For Dating
I have been involved in more than one long distance relationship. Enough to have left a bitter feeling in me and the belief that they do not work, at least not without some serious planning and commitment and a real level of devotion and understanding to the other person.
I cannot bring myself to get involved in another one like that again, to open myself up and allow myself to finally trust someone to then be told some months in that things just aren't working out and we'll never meet anyway.
Online dating can some thrilling and an easy thing to get into, its very easy to open up here and get into some very intense relationships with others because they can truly come to accept and know you in ways others can't in the real world. But ultimately it is the lows without the highs, because as much as you enjoy talking with them sooner or later you begin to notice how they are not actually there, that you cannot hold them to you at night, that they aren't waiting for you when you come home. That their time zone is totally different from yours.
I've never really had a proper relationship before in real life, not with the whole dating thing, I've always been a shy introverted type and hated the school I went to and the girls around me and going into university I was focused entirely both on studying and improving myself. An offline relationship is something that I do want and it would be wrong of me to get involved with someone online while I am interested in an offline girlfriend.
So no I am not here for dating, I'm here to make friends only, to meet some great people that I have a connection with but ultimately not take it any further than that. I'm not looking for any drama or anymore pain, I spent alot of time recovering from my last ex and working to get to the state where I am now where I am happy with myself and I do not want to lose that, I just want to keep things happy and simple here.
I cannot bring myself to get involved in another one like that again, to open myself up and allow myself to finally trust someone to then be told some months in that things just aren't working out and we'll never meet anyway.
Online dating can some thrilling and an easy thing to get into, its very easy to open up here and get into some very intense relationships with others because they can truly come to accept and know you in ways others can't in the real world. But ultimately it is the lows without the highs, because as much as you enjoy talking with them sooner or later you begin to notice how they are not actually there, that you cannot hold them to you at night, that they aren't waiting for you when you come home. That their time zone is totally different from yours.
I've never really had a proper relationship before in real life, not with the whole dating thing, I've always been a shy introverted type and hated the school I went to and the girls around me and going into university I was focused entirely both on studying and improving myself. An offline relationship is something that I do want and it would be wrong of me to get involved with someone online while I am interested in an offline girlfriend.
So no I am not here for dating, I'm here to make friends only, to meet some great people that I have a connection with but ultimately not take it any further than that. I'm not looking for any drama or anymore pain, I spent alot of time recovering from my last ex and working to get to the state where I am now where I am happy with myself and I do not want to lose that, I just want to keep things happy and simple here.
