I Have Been In An Abusive Relationship
Does neglect and being not appreciated for almost 20 years count?
46-50, F
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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
It is certainly clear how this has damaged you. Because you have to ask the question at all. And because it took you 20 years to do so. Lack of appreciation and neglect will take a toll on anybody. Do not underestimate how it has affected your self esteem and self image.
It might be time to take your own life into your own hands. Find some new and fun activities, new hobbies, maybe new friends. Venture out a little. Get a picture of how people in general view you. You need to see a different reflection of yourself.
It might be time to take your own life into your own hands. Find some new and fun activities, new hobbies, maybe new friends. Venture out a little. Get a picture of how people in general view you. You need to see a different reflection of yourself.
somethingIsuppose · 31-35, F
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
JarJarBoom · 41-45, F
its really hard to say that relationship is "abusive" unless they are doing it on purpose out of spite.
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JarJarBoom · 41-45, F
@Fluffy407 isn't Munchhausen‘s by proxy ...pretty much intentional...that you are trying to evoke sympathy from other people through someone else?
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
@Fluffy407 ALL abusers will, if asked about it, deny or minimize the damage done and will insist none of it was intentional. If you experience it as abuse, and most other people would feel bad if it happened to them, and you have at some point protested or clearly explained your feelings, and it continues as a pattern...that is abuse. Many abuse victims get caught up in trying to understand how "intentional" it was or exactly how the abuser felt or thought about doing it, once again putting the attention on the abuser and his or her problems.
Fluffy407 · 41-45, F
Do you think the intention is to harm the child? No, the intention is to have attention @JarJarBoom
looking4thesun · M
WetpantsBoy · M
fun4us2b · M
- best to invest in the future and try to recover and move on - which will include reconciling with yourself over what has happened...
fun4us2b · M
@TenderHeart only for enabling...
TenderHeart · 46-50, F
@fun4us2b if you’ve never been in that situation you have no right to judge.
Thebartender · 36-40, M
wintersecret · 41-45, M
Not sure but in any relationship when one partner is ignored then the relationship is nothing but just a compromised living by the ignored person
PhoenixPhail · M
Absolutely. Might that have been a replay of that same kind of relationship you had experienced before? Just curious.
SlightedSmile · 51-55, M
Yes. It does.
Motosh72 · 51-55, M
Definitely.... 🥴
sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M
No..