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I Have Been In An Abusive Relationship

Most people are being abused by their spouse or their parents. But with me, it isn’t. My brother physically abuse me and my mum. He can be emotionally, mentally and physically abusive. The older he gets, the more he thinks that he’s superior than anyone. He’s hard to deal with. Wish I could talk to someone who’s willing to listen.
Miram · 31-35, F
There need to be boundaries,sometimes law interference. Because statistically abusive behaviour increases when there are no consequences.

I am sorry you are dealing with this.

I grew up in a culture that normalises this. Things improved between me and my older sibling, there is no physical violence anymore.
I was not silent about it, I had to find a way out of that house, I'd have died long ago otherwise.

Your priority needs to be your safety. Nothing else.

This is a website for free support and counseling:

www.7cupsoftea.com
At this point you have an abused persons mentality and don't have it within you to make some changes. You need to call the police and have him arrested. People like that continue because they have no consequences. While he is incarcerated you need to move and not tell him where you both are. Get some help. You need to find support. Although you might not want to do anything I have said, and I am probably wasting my time, there is something in you that knows this is wrong and you do fear for your life. Do something, get help, now.
texasdaddydom · 51-55, M
you don't have to get him sent to jail but he should move out if he won't follow the rules you mother has every right and imo the responsibility to evict him
There must be something troubling him to behave so. Try checking the same and get to speak with him affectionately with the support of your mother.
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Serenitree · F
@sspec It's very difficult to speak reasonably and affectionately to someone who is angry enough to abuse the two people who love him most. Those very angry abusive people do not want to be reasoned with.
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Menetics · 26-30, F
@Fishing65 I want to but it’ll break my heart to see him in jail...
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Serenitree · F
@Menetics Will it break his heart to see you in the hospital, or dead?
jackvik · 26-30, M
Thing is, you wanna bear it as you seem to value your relationship more than anything else. but i think you should bear this physical abuse :/
rickoo164 · 56-60, M
If you Bro did all that to you, why can I report him to the police ?
Menetics · 26-30, F
I don’t want him to go to jail.@rickoo164
rickoo164 · 56-60, M
@Menetics but what he's done to you is against the law.... is not helping him saying nothing because he 'll do the same to somebodyesle for sure..
Serenitree · F
How old is your brother?
Serenitree · F
@Menetics And he's living with your mom, in her home?

She needs to protect herself, and you.....her younger child from the violent man. He should be charged with assault and then made to leave her home.
Menetics · 26-30, F
@Serenitree At the moment, he is. He’s going to move out soon though. To study. I already told my mum that he really needs help.
Serenitree · F
@Menetics I hope he gets the help,he needs.
ajsk13 · 51-55, M
cal the police and tell them , there are laws against this
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Rockstar1 · 36-40, M
Let's talk I will listen
496sbc · 36-40, M
thats very sad to hear

 
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