Let's say you have 4k in savings... [I Ramble]

And you're going to use it to move away to another country and stay with someone while you get your life together.

But a relative knows you have that amount and they want to borrow it to buy their own stuff/pay bills.

Are you obligated to give it to them? Or is it okay to say, "No, that's my savings to move with."

* This is a serious question btw... 😥

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Gangstress · 41-45, F

No. Are they the same people you're staying with?

JupiterDreams · 31-35

@Gangstress The one I'm currently staying with, yuppers. It's hard for me not to give them money because I [i]want[/i] to help... But I also need to remember that I have my own needs and plans for my own life. I struggle with saying [i]no[/i] to people...

Gangstress · 41-45, F

@JupiterDreams that sucks, if a friend needed lodgings, I'd give them that, but the rest is up to me,I'd never put my financial concern on anyone but me

The saying no is hard but be polite. You have your own concerns,and alas,they come first x

JupiterDreams · 31-35

@Gangstress Definitely... Thank you 🌷

Gangstress · 41-45, F

@JupiterDreams Queenofquirks response is a good one! And one where they can't make ya feel bad x