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I Am British

The differences between American and British etiquette always intrigue me. For instance, if I bump into someone by accident, I say sorry, if someone trips over or knocks sth, I say sorry whether I had sth to do with it or not...and my American friends' response is always "oh it's okay it's not your fault" ... like yes, I know it's not my fault.. It's just THE THING TO SAY... 😊
The specific use of "sorry" which you mention is interesting. Here, of course, we use it to convey contrition for what we perceive as our own part in something which went wrong; this is the meaning of "sorry" in the phrase "Love means never having to say you're sorry."

Do you distinguish between the apologetic use of sorry--"I am sorry that I was unable to make the beginning of the meeting..."--from this interjection-esque usage...?

It is odd that the British would do this, since it

1) calls attention to something which went amiss with someone else (thus, exacerbating an already-uncomfortable situation and making the person feel worse), and

2) shows concern for others even in situations where you would only be an observer, not a participant (violating stiff upper lip for oneself and as a model for the other person).

While the latter might be too much of a stereotype, I thought that good manners were designed to prevent the former...?

(I have heard many people who learned British English as a 2nd, 3rd, etc., language say "sorry" but seemingly more when they were involved in some small problem/error/misstep.)

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helenS · 36-40, F
@SomeMichGuy
"I am sorry but I can't come tomorrow, my uncle died yesterday!"
"I am sorry about your loss."
SW-User
I never comment like that if I bump into someone. I always say, "I'm so sorry, excuse me". I'm an American who was brought up with manners.
Reemar · 31-35, F
@SW-User what if you see someone trip over sth?
SW-User
I would ask them "are you okay, do you need help"?@Reemar
Reemar · 31-35, F
@SW-User I've noticed that as well.. the usual Brit response would (usually) be "Sorry.. "
SW-User
We once had those manners too....
Well, some of us still do
Keep on doing you.
Reemar · 31-35, F
@Kathburglar will do :)
jomsim · 26-30, M
Someone told me to stop saying sorry once, and I said "Sorry" even to that.
Reemar · 31-35, F
@jomsim it is... (why did I think you were American)
jomsim · 26-30, M
@Reemar Hehe, I don't know. It must have been something I said.
Reemar · 31-35, F
@jomsim hmm probably
firefall · 61-69, M
People seem to have forgotten that I'm sorry doesnt just mean "I apologize for what happened to you" but also "I regret that this happened" i.e. without assuming blame
xRedx · M
Hmm, maybe it also depends on the person. I know some people like that
Reemar · 31-35, F
@xRedx I've noticed it with quite a number of Americans I've met over the years... not generalising but..
xRedx · M
@Reemar I suppose it's also a cultural difference
Gangstress · 41-45, F
Yeh same lol. I'm always like oh no sorry I stood on your toes like
helenS · 36-40, F
@Gangstress I even say "Sorry" when someone stands on [u]my[/u] toes... 😁
Reemar · 31-35, F
@helenS yes! It's such a reflex response for me
Most British are polite

 
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