I Lack a Sense of Family With My Family
Boy oh boy! Verbal abuse? Physical violence? Neglect?? THINGS COULD HAVE BEEN WORSE!
Family life has been different for me n my sis. We were brought up in a loveless family. Dad never listened to mum, mum took it out on us and we thought dad is right mum is wrong. Why? Cause of Ma's attitude n toxic relationship (I learned this term 5 yrs after leaving home). Me n my sis also learned dad was wrong n mum right (though her attitude stinks) when reflecting back!
Mum n sis have not spoken to one another in nearly 2 months! AT ALL! We get on well with dad, esp dad n sis. But the verbal n toxic relationship we got from mum? The close to ZERO time dad spent with us when we were young? UNBELIEVABLE! EVEN today mum lets me n sis know we're worthless beings. She don't speak t sis as my sis refuses to get married (Indian mentality, yes she has her life t live blah blah).
Although when I visit my sis she likes the company n we even mite play a board game or two.
Thanks to my parents, my sis took her own sort of path in life. When she was 15-16 she became a 110% pure hardcore vegan. Over time I admired her BUT... It has come at a price! My sis hasn't socialised in years, has no one to hang out with, no intentions of marriage (though I don't blame her)... SHE DID NOT even attend my wedding abroad!!!!!!!! Due to her nature I wasn't surprised when she refused.
The zero time spent between kids n dad, the toxic relationship nearly every week "You kids will never mount to anything. So n so's kid is intelligent..." My parents cannot even say "We tried." It's ALL their fault, about 80-85%. Rest is ours of the choices we made, the efforts we put in after leaving home. The stigma of "You will mount to nothing" has stood true for me n my sis.
Family life has been different for me n my sis. We were brought up in a loveless family. Dad never listened to mum, mum took it out on us and we thought dad is right mum is wrong. Why? Cause of Ma's attitude n toxic relationship (I learned this term 5 yrs after leaving home). Me n my sis also learned dad was wrong n mum right (though her attitude stinks) when reflecting back!
Mum n sis have not spoken to one another in nearly 2 months! AT ALL! We get on well with dad, esp dad n sis. But the verbal n toxic relationship we got from mum? The close to ZERO time dad spent with us when we were young? UNBELIEVABLE! EVEN today mum lets me n sis know we're worthless beings. She don't speak t sis as my sis refuses to get married (Indian mentality, yes she has her life t live blah blah).
Although when I visit my sis she likes the company n we even mite play a board game or two.
Thanks to my parents, my sis took her own sort of path in life. When she was 15-16 she became a 110% pure hardcore vegan. Over time I admired her BUT... It has come at a price! My sis hasn't socialised in years, has no one to hang out with, no intentions of marriage (though I don't blame her)... SHE DID NOT even attend my wedding abroad!!!!!!!! Due to her nature I wasn't surprised when she refused.
The zero time spent between kids n dad, the toxic relationship nearly every week "You kids will never mount to anything. So n so's kid is intelligent..." My parents cannot even say "We tried." It's ALL their fault, about 80-85%. Rest is ours of the choices we made, the efforts we put in after leaving home. The stigma of "You will mount to nothing" has stood true for me n my sis.
31-35, M