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I Found a Dating Scammer

I have too.

The ones I have found are not doing anything illegal, just sharp and cynical.

Many now work on-line, some with dubious payment systems via 3rd-party agents who add their own costs and profit to the client company's fees, and display advertisements that may or may not be real but generally tell you very little about the supposed advertiser.

Some of these outfits - such as one that EP to which used to sell screen space - look at the user's internet activity to offer a possible partner living in your locality. It was of course a ruse - the apparent advertisement was simply a link to the "scam" home-page.

These have largely replaced the types who would buy full one or two pages in newspapers to display contact advertisements, but to answer required a telephone call to a premium-rate number which played a long, turgid recording about nothing too useful before even starting to play the advertisement-messages. These in turn had driven the simple "lonely hearts" ad from the papers.

And there are or were dating and adult-contact magazines, but these have gained a reputation of being largely peopled by prostitutes and in some, would-be illegal immigrants and convicts. One long-established British contact magazine charged £20 minimum to place an ad, plus £1/word for those above 20 words - but charged only the men. It was free for the women advertisers!


And who are these shady outfits?


Oh, they trade as regular dating agencies - but it is a cynical, parasitical trade that profits from its users' failures to find happiness, and its commercial impossibility of any sort of guarantee.

The telephone dating-services in Britain typically cost £1.50/minute. So the introductory recording, nearly 15 minutes, long plus 10 advertisements about 1 minute each, cost over £30 even before you find one that may be worth responding to. Of course, even if the ad is genuine and leads to a date, the company knows it can give no guarantee even that.


So not "scammers" as wilful fraudsters - the agencies are not breaking any laws - but the effect is the same.
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SW-User
You might want to consider your cookie settings in the browser - in particular 3rd party ones. You can restrict what they can do - in Firefox restrict to only "visited" or "never" that stops an ad placing a cookie to track you.

Also an Adblocker like Adblock will help as that stops most ads on most sites.
ArishMell · 70-79, M
@SW-User
Thank you: in fact my browser gives me a cookie-filter I can control easily, although for some reason it won't save its settings from one session to the next.

I don't want all cookies stopped because unfortunately they are part of several web-sites I use; but I can limit them.
SW-User
@ArishMell That's why you need to search out the third party one - that means it should work with the sites you do explicitly visited just not store others that try to get loaded - but if they haven't got the domain of the site you are on the browser won't save them
ArishMell · 70-79, M
@SW-User
Ah, OK. I'm not much of an expert of computers so tend to play safe. I think there's some other block too, probably in my protection software, that can have odd effects at times. Generally I am just careful to avoid viewing the pop-ups ads, but I don't see many anyway.

I think there's another level too: my Internet use is not likely to interest most of the advertisers, except those who interest me, and they tend to work by e-mail.