I Miss Someone That Doesn't Miss Me

He was in my life for a year and a half, then he just disappeared. Ghosted me like I meant nothing. So why do I miss him? I was completely vulnerable with him, I had never opened up to anyone in the same way I had with him. I feel like a fool. Re-reading messages that mean nothing. Why does it hurt? Why do I care? I moved on a long time ago... or so I keep telling myself. I guess I wanna know why, but I'll never find out. I bet I haven't crossed his mind even once - that's what makes me angry. I know I'm unimportant and worthless, but to be reminded of it in this way hurts.

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SW-User

You didn't get closure, that's why it still bugs you. Unresolved issues stay open in the memory and the anxiety centre until we resolve those issues.

This kind of thing happens online, it's part of online life. People connect in words only. No matter what they might say things can change and they don't have to face you so they'll just vanish or drift away. It's best to somewhat get used to that, or at least to hold back because there's a good chance of it happening with any online relationship that doesn't move to a real life relationship in relatively quick time.

PandorasBox · 31-35, F

@SW-User You are right. I think I've opted for the hold back option so far. No way will I trust again. I barely trust people as is. Aha.

JarJarBoom · 41-45, F

If they dispose you with very little thought, he doesn't deserve any thoughts in your head.

PandorasBox · 31-35, F

@JarJarBoom That's what I keep trying to tell myself! Thanks x

JarJarBoom · 41-45, F

@PandorasBox I understand that it hurts because sometimes being vulnerable to someone takes a lot but some people just can't deal with that sort of emotion. It doesn't make it your fault.

GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M

The why, even if you could some day know what it was, would not help in the least. There is NO justification for leading you on and then leaving without a word.
Without even knowing you more than from this post, I can assure you you are neither unimportant or worthless.
I wish you the very best!

PandorasBox · 31-35, F

@GJOFJ3 Thank you for your kind words x

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SW-User

Sadly that’s pretty common here . Don’t trust them . I’m so sorry for you .

Fernie · F

you dodged a bullet girl!

LittleTinks

🤗 know this feeling

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