have you ever pertended to be friends with some one just because you need their help?

we used to be good friends we were more than friends but now dont want her around i wish she disappears off my life somehow, she changed we dont talk alot lately and when we do it turns into an argument she has some really trust issues always have to ask about details and when i ask why all the questions she doesn't answer me she just says nothing.
the only reason i am being friends with her cuz i will need her help but when i am done i will tell her how i really feel

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twistermind · 51-55, F

I can't figure out that a person could be friend with someone only because this person can help you.

As you mentioned, she has trust issues and surely you are not gonna help her being near her if you only wants her for your convenience.

Perhaps, I'm being rude but this is my feeling if I understood well your post.
Not sure if I'm missing something because it is also possible that you feel as she is also using you.

ItsGonnaBeOk · 26-30, M

there were some moments where i thought i love her, now i am just upset that she doesn't have any slight feelings for me and i am her first and closest friend.
it really bothers me seeing her with her other friends spending more time with them and she doesn't noticed me anymore, it hurts

twistermind · 51-55, F

@TheNewMan: I knew I was missing something. You seemed upset with her.

She has trust issues and perhaps she also has abandonmen issues so it's possible that she is avoiding to be engaged with you so she won't be hurt.
It's a tough situation I know.

ItsGonnaBeOk · 26-30, M

i always had a bad luck with women, hopefully the next women i fall for is nice and normal and not engaged.

twistermind · 51-55, F

@TheNewMan: You're young. You will find the right one for you. :-)

I know you feel now disappointed. It's normal. Be patience and you will understand your friend a little better with a little of time. There's no reason for yoy both to stop friendship. Love is very valuable but friendhip is also.