Monthly crush update
It's been two months now since I bid farewell to the old company and colleagues. And it's my second update about the crush. So how has this second month been?
Well... we had one mini argument over text and I have learnt some more about him and how to resolve conflict situations. This month I learnt that it's best to accept him for who he is now, and not try and match him up to the image of the perfect partner which I had in mind all these years. Just let him be.
It takes about two days for me to come to accept these things after a conflict, and I see that I still like him. I remove the expectations I have. I look at him for who he is, and I still like what I see.
Yes he isn't what I wanted, but he is a great guy and he has many qualities I admire about him. And I like all that.
I have accepted the fact that he isn't very expressive. He isn't the most thoughtful guy around either. I don't think he is a person who will coo sweet nothings ...
And I have accepted it and I like him still.
He is stubborn in some ways.
I like how calm he is when situations change. And he's really hands on and aware of many things.
Unlike the first month, I don't keep texting him every single little update about my life. And that's good because now my energy is spent minding my own small little baby venture (just an embryo right now). He doesn't text me every update either. But he looks forward to meeting up and just telling me everything then. That was something that took time for me to accept. Before I wanted him to text me everything like I did. But I realize now that's not how he operates. And it's okay.
I was however very pleased when he called me in the morning yesterday to tell me he got a promotion. That's not something he would usually have done. That was special and I cherish it.
Earlier I sent him a barrage of texts and felt that it was me doing everything. I felt the imbalance. But now, I feel that he just operates another way. I have cut down my own texting. And I like this arrangement.
I like how he doesn't insist on his way. He makes me decide and is just fine with whatever I choose.
I still text the prayer thingy. But not only for him. For a few other friends.
So yeah... we're still friends. We are developing a frequency of our own. While also trying to make something out of our lives. Let Destiny take it's course.
If it's meant to be it will be.
I hope my update on November 11 will also be positive. On the personal and professional fronts.
Well... we had one mini argument over text and I have learnt some more about him and how to resolve conflict situations. This month I learnt that it's best to accept him for who he is now, and not try and match him up to the image of the perfect partner which I had in mind all these years. Just let him be.
It takes about two days for me to come to accept these things after a conflict, and I see that I still like him. I remove the expectations I have. I look at him for who he is, and I still like what I see.
Yes he isn't what I wanted, but he is a great guy and he has many qualities I admire about him. And I like all that.
I have accepted the fact that he isn't very expressive. He isn't the most thoughtful guy around either. I don't think he is a person who will coo sweet nothings ...
And I have accepted it and I like him still.
He is stubborn in some ways.
I like how calm he is when situations change. And he's really hands on and aware of many things.
Unlike the first month, I don't keep texting him every single little update about my life. And that's good because now my energy is spent minding my own small little baby venture (just an embryo right now). He doesn't text me every update either. But he looks forward to meeting up and just telling me everything then. That was something that took time for me to accept. Before I wanted him to text me everything like I did. But I realize now that's not how he operates. And it's okay.
I was however very pleased when he called me in the morning yesterday to tell me he got a promotion. That's not something he would usually have done. That was special and I cherish it.
Earlier I sent him a barrage of texts and felt that it was me doing everything. I felt the imbalance. But now, I feel that he just operates another way. I have cut down my own texting. And I like this arrangement.
I like how he doesn't insist on his way. He makes me decide and is just fine with whatever I choose.
I still text the prayer thingy. But not only for him. For a few other friends.
So yeah... we're still friends. We are developing a frequency of our own. While also trying to make something out of our lives. Let Destiny take it's course.
If it's meant to be it will be.
I hope my update on November 11 will also be positive. On the personal and professional fronts.
26-30, F
