How do you refrain yourself from not lashing out on somebody

Thank you all. 😊😊😘 you all are the best!! I love the ‘support on demand’ here lol

Find other outlets for it.

It depends against whom and why I feel like lashing out. If I hope to have any future relationship, I do my best not to lash out but to explain my side and ask for theirs. If that can't happen, I try to just terminate the relationship in terms of intensity (I can't be your girlfriend, best friend, etc) anymore.

In the final analysis, lashing out rarely accomplishes anything except some temporary decompression and a worsening of tensions. It also sometimes results in the other person telling us some things that they see as truth that may be more painful than we anticipate.

my future employment is the only thing...

I think about how I dont want to go to jail. If I went around thumping people, one look at my height and size they'd lock me up for good.

I read a Byron Katie book, I try to calm down, but I understand, people get annoying and sometimes I can’t handle people myself!

Excercise, do art, write down your thoughts, tell others how you feel without melting down.

Sometimes you can't. Be prepared for the consequences though. Particularly the unintended ones.

Endure if you can. As you've seen, having a support systems helps.

Some form of exercise until you're exhausted.

I have been trained in the art of self control

I dont do that, neither do I accept it. We all have matters of different intensity to deal with.one should not effect the other. How do I do it? I guess, the first step was the realization that how bursting or venting out helps? It never helps. Stick to the problem solving thought processing. Like, How do I get out of it. Best wishes

That's an excellent question.😔I can refrain from making a crappy comment unless I'm feeling bullied and they're down right mean. If it's someone close to you I'd tell them how you're feeling, holding your feelings in can make you ill.

I’ve never had any problem with anger. I try to hide it and keep it inside