I Dont Know Who I Am Anymore

After escaping a controlling marriage of over 20 years, I was 16 when it started, after leaving my controlling parents. I find myself 5 years past divorce, still lost, still lonely and still feel like I have no identity I don't know who I am supposed to be?
Another failed relationship behind me.. then another.. I am the good friend but is that enough?

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warnbrobeachlover1 · M

It takes time all be it a long journey , but realising that there have been bumps in the road and taking time to look at the cause is a small first step and in time things will eventually turn and your path to happiness will present itself, its a matter of being positive and strong and not giving up , hope that things work out well and that life does get better for you

FORMERLYbatovn · 56-60, M

The first advise I would offer is realize you don't need "someone to complete me". You need to determine who you are as an individual....then at the right time add those(friends and SO) that embellish the person you are. Its a mind set more than anything

SageWanderer · 70-79, M

Maybe because you've been controlled for so long it's a new experience of trying to be yourself. It's a process and there will be wins and losses. Being the good friend is a start toward building yourself.

Groofydorkgerdo · 56-60, M

No one is really meant to find themselves, but rather forge there own existences and proclaim who they are.

Venice · 46-50, F

@Groofydorkgerdo That's pretty profound.. so its more about accepting your faults strengths and building on them?

Groofydorkgerdo · 56-60, M

@Venice Well, in part kinda yeah.
More like knowing your faults, knowing your great regardless of said faults and working to rid your self of those faults.

ShiftingGears · 46-50, M

We all lose sight at some point

Venice · 46-50, F

@ShiftingGears I don't think I lost sight, I fitted into a mould that I didn't design. I suppose I've been on the road to self discovery but so far I've discovered very little

ShiftingGears · 46-50, M

@Venice I can appreciate that, understand

stound

is it enough for you?

Venice · 46-50, F

@stound I don't feel complete, so I'm thinking No. But how does one find themselves?

stound

@Venice I'm not quite sure, but like in most things; identifying that there is a problem to be worked on is one of the first, key, and often times most difficult task.

Tracos · 51-55, M

as horrible as it may sound... the key to finding yourself is not in a relationship, but in traveling a stretch of your path by yourself on your own feet...

Venice · 46-50, F

@Tracos I've always supported myself but maybe not emotionally. I think that's my weak point... Being alone is I find currently a struggle

Tracos · 51-55, M

@Venice it does take some serious time to get comfortable to being alone... company is addictive.... even bad or wrong company...

revenant · F

what are you passionate about ?

Venice · 46-50, F

@revenant My work, my family..

revenant · F

@Venice hobbies; try to find something which makes you you

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