Don’t you hate it when people tell you you’re going to have regrets over something?

I do! I don’t have any relationship with my dad and I don’t care to because he abandoned my mom after learning she was pregnant with me. Still, I have always been told that I will regret not reaching out to him, but I’m a grown woman now and I‘ve never regretted it. Then I recently dropped out of college because I’ve been working hard at it for years but have little to nothing to show for it. Now people tell me I’m going to regret not finishing, but I really don’t think I’m going to regret it as much as I’m regretting even bothering with college. I have loads of regret over things I’ve done or haven’t done in life, but not one of them were from anyone else telling me so. They’re things I’ve realized all on my own, which is what defines what a regret is all about. So how are other people going to tell you what you‘re going to regret something? To me, it just feels like I’m being judged. Like they’re saying I’m in the wrong for not knowing my dad or dropping out of college and will look back on it and agree someday. Maybe I will, but for that’s for me to determine, not anyone else. What if I don’t? What if they’re wrong? Do they ever stop to consider that?

Platinum · M

Yes you were, I was nice and you attacked me....just read your replies you were offensive while I've been nice....@PerchingDove

Budwick · 70-79, M

[quote]Do they ever stop to consider that?[/quote]

Sure they do.
But, have you considered, what if they're right?

With Dad, at some point there's no choices left when he passes.
What's the cost in checking in, see if there's something to salvage, some common ground? If it doesn't work out, no loss. If it DOES work out, restoration of a relationship with a parent is pretty significant.

The college thing - I won't push hard on that. College degrees these days seem over rated - certainly over priced.

Best of luck!

PerchingDove · F

@Budwick My lack of relationship with my dad wasn’t even the main topic of this post, it was about people telling me what I’m supposedly going to regret. You made it about my dad, not me. And now you’ve gone and turned this into argument too. You are being rude! Even if it’s not your intent, you’re being judgmental and insensitive. But I’m done talking to you. Don’t comment on people’s personal stuff if you can’t stand to have a bit of decency.