I Have Low Self Esteem

I hate that this is how I feel about myself! I let stupid childhood memories haunt me and just feel really undesirable most of the time so I just choose to sit on the sidelines and watch the rest of the world move on and have exciting things happen to them while I just wait for something to come along because I don't have enough security in myself to go for it! I hate how easy it to tear myself down! I crave validation from others but never receive it and it hurts but I'm honestly trying to change that about myself because it is really unbecoming and will become worse if I don't fix it myself.

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Tatsumi · 31-35, M

the standard would be to reassure you you're perfect as you are, but I'm afraid that's be.

Why, I'm so used to just bitching, I started to comment b4 I read to the end. You'll definitely make it. It's a slog, and I did my fair share of watching the world go by. Systematic growth is the only answer I came to. Life is suffering, and the two options available to us are to accept or deny. You have the right view, see the issues you are facing, and have made the resolve to face them.

You'll become great or at least sufficient if you come up with an action plan to go for it. You seem quite analytical I'm your approach, which is better than most, already. I would only suggest you make sure to turn that into actions, as analytics are only valuable with action.

Just don't do what I did and delay the action. Baby steps. As long as you're better today than you were yesterday, that's enough to vastly change your destination over time. Small changes last. Big changes dont.

Also important to focus not on how far you have come--breeds complacency. But on what will happen if you *don't* change.

The strongest change is also running both towards a desired outcome and away from an undesired outcome.

Good luck

Ah. PS. Memories older than 6 months shouldn't pop up. If they do, it's recommended you go into the memory and face it. Imagine what you could have done differently, or adjust your worldview to incorporate ithe injustice. Older than 6 months and bothering you = your brain saying "the fuck do we do if this happens again? Gimme a game plan."

newdawnnewday · 22-25, F

@Tatsumi Thank you so much! This was oddly inspiring and made me feel a lot better. I guess it is just fear holding me back at this point. Everything has stayed the same for so long Im not sure if I will regret new change (even though I know I desperately need it).

english · 56-60, M

it is true only you can fix it,try to think of yourself as unique as really are,idk what kind of bullying you experienced,any is bad news, as you say its easier to mock yourself or agree ,making changes on another or others say so.being different on any level is not a fault or sign you have to wear.you probably feel alone on this your not ,you are better than the opinion of bullies,believe in yourself always go with your own gut feeling.im sure your inner child is just waiting for you to set her free, you got this 🤗

newdawnnewday · 22-25, F

@english This made me tear up a little. Thank you so much for your kind words. This means a lot.

plAfulandalittleNaughty · M

It's good that you're able to talk about these things as you are on here, have you ever talked to a counsellor about how you feel?

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plAfulandalittleNaughty · M

@newdawnnewday It is hard to feel comfortable and to trust someone enough to open up, and fear can hold us back too, it's good though that you were able to post what you did on here, I hope that you do find someone that you can trust enough to open up to, and that with their help you are able to move towards the you that you want to be and the towards the life that you want to have

newdawnnewday · 22-25, F

@plAfulandalittleNaughty Thank you! It is always that weird phenomena where people find it is easier to open up to a bunch of strangers with the mask of the internet on their side than people u know in real life.

plAfulandalittleNaughty · M

@newdawnnewday Yes it is, the anonymity can be quite helpful

DaveStevenson · M

You're not the only one. I battle with that a lot.

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