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I Have Low Self Esteem

Anyone else is afraid of failure and feel as fear prevent her/him of doing things and face to life? How to built security, self-confidence?
I already take pills for anxiety and it helps a little but this issue is a constant fight.

I needed to get this out of.
Sorry for your situation. My advice would be for you to try seeking some form of counseling. Also, take it easy try not to be so hard on yourself; appreciate yourself for who you are. Take it one day at a time. Instead of focusing on your anxiety try thinking of the things you like to do for fun, or hobbies that you enjoy, and go do them. Thank god for the good things in life that you have going for you. Most of all don't worry about how others think about you. Do the best you can with your life as long as you are happy with yourself wether you fail on something there's always another road to take, for something that you can be comfortable with, and not what others want you to do.

Try to take a few moments to really look inside yourself, and decide what triggers your anxiety, or what is it that you really want in life. The most truest part of this is try to learn how to really be comfortable in your own skin that's what it's all about.. Being confident in yourself. Like I said if you can try seeking counseling that probably would help with your situation... Good luck.馃憤
twistermind51-55, F
@shelikesher Thank you a lot for your reply. I appreciate a lot what you say and yes, you鈥檙e very right. I鈥檓 very hard with myself.
WillaKissing56-60
You know I have feared failure my entire life myself, but I always tried my hardest no matter what, and succeed more than failed. And what I failed in I found was a greater learning lesson then my successes, and greater blessing in the long run.


I have PTSD/anxiety as well, but I have leaned through counseling to face or to walk away when the anxiety rears up ( which is ever best and appropriate for me at the time anxiety strikes me ). I shared with all my family and friends about the PTSD/anxiety and what the triggers are for me to help them to relate to me. Don't bottle it up that is what kills you!


And yes stating it does help you to cope and over come it.
WillaKissing56-60
@twistermind You are a worthy person. You just have to learn that failure is true learning and the best way you can grow is through failure.

I do not want you to take your hat off in front of me, but I would like to see you to stand on your own proudly with me!
twistermind51-55, F
@WillaKissing :-) You鈥檙e very sweet. I鈥檓 gonna do it. I鈥檓 not gonna punish myself anymore unless I do a bad greed on purpose, what is very rare in me, to be honest. There鈥檚 a sane feeling of guilty or shame but there鈥檚 another that is not good for anything.
You too, go ahead!
WillaKissing56-60
I have the same feeling of guilt and shame in what I do in my cross dressing, but at the same time I love it and it relaxes me and makes me feel happy. So I just live with it over the depression and anxiety, and I grow with it in my daily life/life style. When it comes to feeling happy and healthy for me. I don't give a damn what other's may think or say! This is my life and I will live it happy and free of other's damnation!
PfuzylogicM
Honestly I would pick up an Arts or Craft that you flirted with in the past and make something that you are proud of.
Clay, Glass, Ceramics, WaterColor, Oils, Acrylic, Wood, Metal, Leather or Creative Writing.
Something personal that you can make and own.
iamnikki31-35, F
I'm afraid of failure yes. With the esteem/confidence issue, remember that no one knows you have the issue but you. Project confident until you actually [i]are[/i] confident. Challenge yourself to do what makes you uncomfortable. I need to take my own advice馃槄
twistermind51-55, F
@iamnikki :-) From here, I鈥檓 trying to give you the best vibes I can.
Yes, I know noone can know how I鈥檓 feeling but on the other side I don鈥檛 find easy to pretend. My face is always the mirror of my psyche. I can鈥檛 control my fear. So I guess I look like if I have a cucumber on my asshole when indeed I have another part who is not only polite but sweet and affectionable.

I wish you luck!
WoodyAqM
Story of my life. At one point it nearly killed me. Now I'm content to kill myself slowly with alcohol.
twistermind51-55, F
@WoodyAq Yes. I also feel this urge to self-medicate sometimes.
WoodyAqM
@twistermind I waver between self-medication and self-destruction ...
twistermind51-55, F
Thank you guys (and gals :-) ) Really appreciate your insight and your words.
Wanted to say this in general to all of you, bc there鈥檚 a very nice feeling when someone wants to offer another one who carry a suffering, a message so this person will find some kind of comfort.
Thank you a lot! :-)
Groofydorkgerdo51-55, M
I do, on occasion.
Harriet0341-45, F
Screaming is good hun!
twistermind51-55, F
@Harriet03 :-) I guess this is what I鈥檓 doing here.
Harriet0341-45, F
@twistermind Let it go!!!

 
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