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Help. My boyfriend wants to "share" me with another man... What should I do?

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A lot of closed minded people and answers in here. Many Americans are so strange when it comes to open relationships and polyamory.

He is probably turned on by the thought of watching another man pleasure you and then taking over. If the idea of two men at the same time turns you on then have a serious discussion with him about rules and boundaries and try it out just as a fantasy first before doing anything for real. It may be that just the fantasy is enough for him and that is where you should both leave it. If both people in a couple are turned on by this sort of idea it can be the most amazing thing you ever do. But be very careful about progressing to anything for real if the fantasy doesn't turn you on first. You need to ease into these sorts of things.

The bottom line is there is a reason humans - especially men - are turned on by the imagery of hot people having sex. It's a natural mechanism to drive us to procreate with lots of partners and find the "best sperm or egg" to reproduce with. The way humans are wired sexually isn't always compatible with how we feel emotionally, so this can be confusing. You can certainly be in love with one man or woman but be attracted to one or several others. What is "right" or "wrong" within your relationship is a balance of what you both want and need. So, talk to him about it. If you like the idea in the slightest try going with it a little as a fantasy. And then play it by ear.