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What did women find so appealing about 50 shades of Gray?
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I think many liked the idea of being 'bad'...the woman Dakota Johnson plays is one who is innocent and has never experienced many sexual settings. So Christian shows her this world of letting go..of just giving in to extreme pleasure , but HE will be the one to give it, mixed with pain too. Almost like a forbidden thing...I think that's what the story wanted to give to readers/women..a fantasy of letting go in an extreme way.
Northwest · M
I'll give you my male perspective.
I had a girlfriend who's an avid reader, so books were on my regular gift list, and I usually went by the NY Times list. I had no clue what 50 Shades of Gray was about, but it ended up as a gift for her. Up to that point, I thought of her as more of an extreme feminist, and an academic/scientist.
Then, she asked me to read it. And I did, and figured out immediately why she asked me to read it.
It turns out she's a submissive, and had no idea how to bring it up...
I saw the movie, and it was disappointing. What I could not figure out, about the book, is how the author, a British woman, who did not live in Seattle, knew so much about Seattle and Washington state. A lot of the places she describes in the book, are only known by locals. The parking lot, where they end up after the car chase, is now gone, replaced by the Weyerhaeuser glass headquarters.
I had a girlfriend who's an avid reader, so books were on my regular gift list, and I usually went by the NY Times list. I had no clue what 50 Shades of Gray was about, but it ended up as a gift for her. Up to that point, I thought of her as more of an extreme feminist, and an academic/scientist.
Then, she asked me to read it. And I did, and figured out immediately why she asked me to read it.
It turns out she's a submissive, and had no idea how to bring it up...
I saw the movie, and it was disappointing. What I could not figure out, about the book, is how the author, a British woman, who did not live in Seattle, knew so much about Seattle and Washington state. A lot of the places she describes in the book, are only known by locals. The parking lot, where they end up after the car chase, is now gone, replaced by the Weyerhaeuser glass headquarters.
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SumKindaMunster · 51-55, M
E.L. James essentially tapped into the fantasies of a lot of women who had read the "Twilight" series. She discovered there was a market for a story about a rich, good looking dom who seduced a virgin into the world of light sadomasochism sex play.
It took off from there.
Men would not understand. This is female pornography. Just like a lot of women don't understand men's fascination with hard core pornography.
It took off from there.
Men would not understand. This is female pornography. Just like a lot of women don't understand men's fascination with hard core pornography.
4meAndyou · F
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
Northwest · M
@Fungirlmmm [quote]a D/s relationship is in the real world[/quote]
I did some research about it, at the time. But, isn't it really about the individual, as opposed to some strict set of guidelines? It's not like there's a school you go to, to get a D/s degree :-)
I did some research about it, at the time. But, isn't it really about the individual, as opposed to some strict set of guidelines? It's not like there's a school you go to, to get a D/s degree :-)
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
@Northwest I can only base my observations from being an adult blogger for many years and the people I came in contact through that and the other bdsm couples that we associated in our circles (and 2 different Doms). Many of those that read my blog considered the relationship (64% of respondents at the time that identified in a D/s role) to be an abusive one. I wish I had not decommissioned my Blog because I had some really fun polls and more than a few followers that would come back week after week to comment and participate in games, contests, and blogs. Interestingly I had persons that identified as vanilla (a "sub question " I asked in my polls) thought the Grey series was more real than the BDSM community that followed me. I used to learn so much from my polls on my blog. I really should start a new one.
Northwest · M
@Fungirlmmm You mean 64% considered the relationship between the books characters' to be abusive? What do they base that on?
You should restart your blog.
You should restart your blog.
SW-User
@Jasondf Ouch. I typed it wrong place. You can read on the comment section.
Jasondf · M
Me too. That’s why we’re buds. What I meant to say is, Why do you think they like it. @SW-User
DragonSlayerr · 26-30, F
Jasondf · M
Why do you think some people liked it so much? I’m trying to understand
JupiterDreams · 31-35
Jasondf · M
If you had to take a wild guess, why do you think people liked it?@JupiterDreams
yeronlyman · 51-55, M
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
@yeronlyman Same here my friend.
yeronlyman · 51-55, M
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
@yeronlyman indeed. Much much better.
HotPizza71 · 51-55, M
The soundtrack
Lilnonames · F
