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Do females feel a need to feel beautiful?

Do you think that for females beauty is built so much into our identity that there is a genuine need for this to be validated amongst most women in order for them to feel high self worth? Validation thru attention, online views, stares, jealousy from other females, jobs where looks are important, boyfriends, husbands and just in life in general. Are women subtly and overtly seeking validation of our looks from everyone more so than men do?
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Yes they do. But I'm not sure that it's all women that are affected beyond control. Women are more disciplined now that they have more opportunities.
BlueVeins · 22-25
I think it's sort of a common thing for women. I sometimes wonder if those men who buy big trucks, grow huge fucking forearms, and walk around in tank tops are sorta like the male equivalent of women who spend hours on makeup and fashion. But I also realize that that's also sort of a power thing for at least for some of 'em so who's to say.
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I like to feel beautiful, but I do this because I like it..true beauty, the attitude, as in confidence, and self worth, can be difficult to find, and keep, and many overlook it. I don't think gender matters.
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I like to look nice for myself
REMsleep · 41-45, F
@SW-User How much would it affect your identity if most people thought that you were ugly and you were aware of this?
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@REMsleep I have dealt with this already in my youth ..at school I was called all sorts of things and ugly was one of them ...it did hurt .
But I grew up and moved on ..there is more to someone than their looks ..
I can't stand shallow people ...
I think looks are important because thst how we find a husband.
REMsleep · 41-45, F
@Spoiledbrat This is part of it being built into our identity more so than for a man but even after we do find a husband women will say that they feel ugly if they are never approached by other men or that they are unhappy if their husband does not tell them and show them that they look good. Men don't need this as long as the sex is good and regular you generally wont hear them complain that their wife isint complimenting them enough.
DestroyerOfIdeologies · 22-25, M
@Spoiledbrat And sometimes we guys also try to look our best :) Though I'm probably the last person you should ask about fashion and looking good :P
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ChloeYoung · 18-21, F
I think it’s a lot more important to most female to take pride in their appearance compared to guys. When I finish messing around outside with my horse, cutting the grass or playing sport. It’s important to me to try and look nice even when I’m home alone. But I’m not into standing in front of the mirror admiring myself like some girls do, lol
This is a really interesting question. 😊
I like to keep an even keel. Not so pretty that people stare, not so ugly that I lose self worth. Mainly I try to blend in. The only time I really go for it is when I'm on a night out with my husband as I feel it's important he is proud to be with me. So yeah looks count to me in that respect.
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REMsleep · 41-45, F
@LittleEvilOne I agree. Butt ugly men can still have it all if they are good in the other areas. This dosen't work for females.
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REMsleep · 41-45, F
@LittleEvilOne So right
Streamofconsciousness · 31-35, T
I like feeling beautiful, but it is not because I'm seeking validation from anyone. You're placing an assumption that women want to look beautiful for someone else. Many women like looking beautiful for themselves. I workout for myself. I put on makeup for myself. I write poetry and read books and do art for myself. I take selfies and admire myself, then I delete them or don't share them. Sometimes I share them to share reflections on things I've learnt about myself to connect with others. I think more people want to connect than seek validation. It's such a lowly way of looking at why people do what they do. Humans are social beings who often connect firstly via appearance. Connections made beyond appearance come second, so looks are fairly important. It doesn't mean that the importance of appearance stems from insecurities, though. I, for one, am far more insecure about the things I fear others think of me from minor encounters that can't possibly paint the whole story than I am over anything else. My greatest insecurity and validation is in feeling like I'm understood and valued by others for what I am and have to offer.
REMsleep · 41-45, F
@Streamofconsciousness We dont exsist in a vacuum and everything that we do has been affected by the larger society around us. Beauty is a focal point in our society. I am not assuming that people are shallow. I actually interpret somethings that you commented about differently than you might. This question is a thought experiment but I do not agree with everything that you have said but some interpretation is subjective and I acknowledge this.
hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M
For as long as there have been women there has been women's beauty products. Archaeologists often find the remains in old ruins.
thiccchungles · 22-25, F
Yeah pressure is definitely placed more on women but for me personally, I just focus on being healthy.
purplepen · 51-55, F
I think so. But I've always disliked the jealousy part. It was worse when I was younger and a bit thinner and people kept saying I should be a model. I liked the compliments because I had a fat phobia from family and old-fashioned ideas. My weight went up and down a bit because I always has to stay functioning. It took years to get over that. But for me it was more a guilt complex than an ugliness complex.
DestroyerOfIdeologies · 22-25, M
Maybe it's not always such a bad thing? Of course taken to extreme and to the point where you start hurting those around you then yeah it is bad. But I like the feminine body and the beautiful clothes they wear and of course their beautiful spirit also.
I don’t give a shit about my looks. I only groom up to be presentable in my line of work. I’m pretty sure this applies to the opposite sex too.
REMsleep · 41-45, F
@DrScissorhands If you truly "dont give a shit about your looks" you are an extreme outlier.
@REMsleep I couldn’t be arsed about that skin care routine, or exfoliating, let alone shopping for clothes. As long as I am clean as a whistle, presentable and smell good, I’m winging it one smirk at a time.
wheels1972 · M
there is far too much emphasis on appearance an apple can look beautiful and still be rotten to the core. ...
REMsleep · 41-45, F
@wheels1972 Often the shinest apples are made of plastic
wheels1972 · M
@REMsleep im ugly and proud i couldnt give a toss.
MrsKatherineArch · 41-45, F
I think most people want to be considered attractive on some level.
I like for everything to look nice!! Not just myself 😄😄
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REMsleep · 41-45, F
@SW-User Honest thanks
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@REMsleep I mean I love makeup for that reason
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Possibly, because women are still valued based upon their looks. Many magazines that appeal to men feature sexually attractive women, and men seek “hot” women as trophies. If that were not the yardstick, possibly women wouldn’t feel as compelled to try and meet it. And they’d certainly feel less need to compete with other women for men’s attention.
Gender doesnt matter
REMsleep · 41-45, F
@TryingtoLava Im speaking strickly on beauty and the importance in being beautiful on a man vs a woman.
DestroyerOfIdeologies · 22-25, M
@TryingtoLava If I only had money. I'd buy suits and have many of them tailored.
DestroyerOfIdeologies · 22-25, M
@REMsleep I wonder if buying classy and sports cars is a sort of an indirect way for some men to look good. Some sure spend a lot of time into such things, they are expensive too.

 
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