What is the difference between pretending to be supportive and trying to be supportive?

Now if only I could figure out if he's sincere.

@nonsensiclesnail He will let you know....with time.

@rckt148 true enough. he does not go the extra mile, though he talks about it sometimes. If there is something in it for him.
Thank You.

@nonsensiclesnail I had one who said I love you a thousand times a day
stayed up my rear 24 /7 so afraid another female would talk to me for 15 yrs
I have been left over having addictions ,even though I supported my habits
made sure my woman had anything she could ever want ,but it was the principle I loved drugs more than her ,no I needed help to walk so I could work to give her all the nice things she made sure to tell me her friends had ,
And when I could no longer provide a non stop give give give life ,she left me
Even though I knew my sons Mom had a problem with drugs and alcohol ,,I was dumb enough to promise I would never forsake her over it ,she knew I now kept my promises even if it cost me ,,sometimes way more than I was willing to pay
I held on ,even letting her talk me into having a son at the time I didn't want
But when I needed her help to take care of my Mom who was dying
All I got was I'm sorry and why should I
So I finally had gone long beyond the mile ,and her I love you's only hurt me
So I said prove it ,go to rehab or get out ,enough is enough
She already anticipated this was coming ,she had her clothes in her trunk
She left me and moved in with a drunk that couldn't support her
They lived off my sons dependent check (I am disabled ) until I had enough of that too ,I won custody of my kids from my first wife who was a saint compared to her ,so she knew I was not playing
Let our son say he has seen you high one more time ,
I have papers drawn up ,,I have taken the parenting classes ,I have lived in the same place 18 yrs at the time ,,I have UA's every month and I am clean
So try me and lose out son ,
Now she only parties when he is with me ,and she is tired of the drunk
But she knows I am done ,but were good friends now
And I still keep my promise ,,if she needs anything especially for our son she gets it ,,and unlike her ,I will still help her family if they need any of my skills
But I sent her to nursing school so when the time come Mom needed us she could help ,,,and there is not a hospital that won't hire her
But when I needed her ,all I got was "I love you and i'm sorry " that crap was worthless ,,but I did get to see why I hurt my wives so bad
It is hell living with a drunken drug addict
I hate a liar and a thief ,,an addict is both

@LyricalOne passive negative/rude comments as compared to direct positive, supportive comments. If I weight them out the rude ones are more common. If I ask him he will tell me what I want to hear, or really, what serves his purpose at the time.

I might have to not care.

@Aliveshock I don't know that there is any ❤️

@nonsensiclesnail
If someone is trying their expression should indicate the energy they are putting in the effort

@HipYoungDude for example 😒

@HipYoungDude He wishes.

@St0ut LOL, yes, a good example.

@anythingoes477 lol

..oh, you were probably serious.