I Am An Mra

His interview was never broadcasted (20/20 probably saw him as a misogynistic ass like he obviously is, and didn't want to give him the opportunity to spew his venomous rhetoric). Here is manboobz comments and quotes which point out how misogynistic Elam (spelling is opposite of "male" which is quite telling) is:

http://manboobz.com/2013/10/18/paul-elam-of-a-voice-for-men-in-his-own-words/

Here is a portion of the interview which is the only part of the interview that abc ever provided:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wBF8w5tVBJA

I think its very ironic that in this interview Elam he points out that men's roles really have not changed and they have not responded to the changes women have experienced, and that have come about, as a result of feminism, and that men have "lived their lives without reacting to much of it". This could be seen as a very negative and difficult thing for women, and not men, to have to deal with.

Women have begun being expected to work and provide financial support for their family, but because some men have ignored these changes and not "reacted" to them they still expect their wives and girlfriends to be submissive to them and to do all of the "women's work". I have known numerous wives who became absolutely exhausted, particularly after having children, because they had to work full time, but were also still expected to provide virtually all of the care required for their children, their households, their pets, paying bills, cooking, doing laundry, etc. because their husbands still felt that their only "roles" were working at their jobs, taking out the trash (not all of them even felt that was their responsibility), and doing occasional yard work (if they didn't hire a gardener to do it because their wife now made enough money to make that an alternative). A lot of husbands still expect their working wives to do all of the "women's work" while the husbands do very little except devote their primary time and attention to their job. They expect their wives to have the children cared for, the house clean, and dinner waiting for them when they come home from work. Then while the wives are still working their asses off doing virtually everything else that needs to be done after serving dinner, the husbands head over to their couch or recliner after they finish eating dinner and take a snooze while watching TV, or they sit on their computer playing games, etc. (not doing any work) until bedtime. When the wives finally make it to bed and are exhausted beyond belief and immediately fall sound asleep (sometimes with their clothes still on), the husbands get pissed because they expect them to throw on lingerie and have hot, passionate sex with them. What a horrible role for men - NOT!!!!

The other thing that is ironic about what Elam is blabbing in the interview is that men "now have to react because marriage has become an unsafe ground for them". When the interviewer asks why he feels that marriage is now an unsafe ground for men Elam goes on to claim that it is because "we have corrupt family courts that practice bias against men and fathers routinely and men are waking up to this - that they don't get a fair deal". The interviewer asks him why they don't "get a fair deal" and he claims its "because of the preferential bias for mothers in custody".

First of all, based on what he is saying the only men who would feel that "marriage is now unsafe for them" would be men who assume that they are going to end up divorced and fighting for custody. This is not what happens to all men, and it isn't what most men (or women) who get married expect to happen. Most men and women don't assume they are going to get divorced so marriage is unsafe

Second of all, most men don't feel they should have custody of their children if a divorce occurs, and that a court that awarded primary custody to the mother is a "corrupt family court", that practices "bias against men and fathers routinely", because they are awarding primary child custody to the mother. Most men want their wives to be awarded primary custody, and they just want joint custody so they won't be primarily responsible for the care and upbringing of their children. They don't see the courts that do this as being corrupt and preferentially biased against them because they also recognize that the majority of the population (including the courts) know that most mothers are the ones who provide the best care and upbringing of children (its genetic since we are the ones who give birth) so they should get primary custody.

I honestly think, as many other people do as well, that Elam comes off like a fool for claiming these kinds of things. Particularly since he has never been married, has never had any children, and has never been a marriage and family counselor. He will come up with any excuse he can to try to make it look like men are being treated unfairly and unjustly, while completely ignoring that women have been dealt with unfairly and unjustly for centuries which is exactly why feminism came into existence in the first place, and still exists.