I Am Single

Don't let anyone tell you otherwise, thinking things through is a good thing. I was in a relationship with one guy some years back and we seemed to be getting along very well. Felt we had a connection, knew what we both wanted from the relationship, then we entered the grey zone. The area where things suddenly changed and he admitted he didn't want a long term relationship after all and I felt miserable for investing my time and emotions for nothing. It took him four years to realise this? Maybe he had valid reasons, his parents divorced when he was a kid and it stopped him believing in monogamy, maybe an ex cheated on him and destroyed his ability to trust completely which made him terrified of commitment. The reason don't really matter, but the faces do. He probably did care about me, enjoyed spending time with me, but just couldn't pass that point of where things would lead somewhere, even though we spoke of marriage.
At least he was honest. I tried not to see it as a reflection on me not to make it my problem. I knew and still know what I want out of life. By 39 I believe he should have known as well. But his issues are his problems and I would have paved the way for a lot unnecessary hurt if I had made them my problems too. If I turned out to be not the right girl for him, then better to find out after four years instead of marriage kids down the line. So yes, it's good to think things through and I'm glad he did. I never saw him again, but I know I came out of that relationship a little stronger than I was before.