I Am Single

I've been single for awhile now, and which most days doesn't completely bother me to be honest. My life is in a relatively decent spot at the moment, no debts, not many obligations, I basically have the power to do whatever I want, can travel anywhere, do anything really.

Though at some point you want to find someone to do those things with, part of my issue is that I don't have very many friends. It's a complete rarity for example for me to have an outing with a group of friends. There are people I talk to once in awhile, and I get along with work colleagues but I don't "hang out" with people. Is that normal for men? It's hard to tell what is normal....

Anyways on to my singleness... I do date... once in awhile... thinking about the last 3-4 years I likely average about 2-3 dates per year. But to this point they have been exclusively first and only dates :( but they're always different and each Women I've met with all had different personalities... still trying to figure out my type?

So in the past week I met up with someone, we swapped emails for at least a month and a half before arranging a meetup. Though we didn't call it a date... I wonder if that made a difference of some kind. Though I really enjoyed it, couldn't believe how much time passed when I was done...

This woman was smart, yet very unassuming for reasons I can't explained I really really liked that. Sent her a message afterwards and she responded twice so far... but still feel unclear where everything stands... I'd definitely want to see her again if I had the opportunity. But one of the frustrating parts to this is how drawn out the interactions with her is... the life of a single person... many lonely people out there just wanting to connect with someone... so many ways to do it... and yet we still stumble across the same age old problems... just with many more complications...

Might as well just wait and see and enjoy the ride!

PhindingPhronesis

It doesnt matter whats normal man. when you worry about normalcy you worry about hiding yourself.. dont do that man!

and When you said maybe I need to find my type, maybe you should do that before you try and settle down or at least get a girlfriend. It'll never be the perfect match, but it's good you are trying to find the right relationship. Go on more advntures, find out your type by what you value: humour, compassion, children, art, sports, anything as long as its meaningful to you!

I think a lot of guys who are jerks just steal all the girls who should be in a relationship with a better manlike you or I.. :P just my little conspiracy lol

FatAlly

I think people worry about unwritten dating rules..things like not wanting to appear too eager in case it comes across as needy..or worry about the pressure of meeting online where there's an inherent expectation that it's a date and you're dating..and the longer you're single the more you find solace in being alone and complications with another person..best of luck though.