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I Am Single

I am single - AGAIN! After my wife went off and made a baby with someone else. I paid her half what I got for our home to be fair to her. Then I said goodbye to be fair to me. Perhaps I could have made a better decision with a little cooperation. A partnership of any kind requires fair and frank dealings and communication. No coupling can last if all decisions and dealings are one sided. The one essential ingredient of a successful relationship is agreement (IMHO). Without agreement intimacy is impossible. Divorce can be rough on kids and these days I try to be diplomatic with the mother of my two (now adult) children. The only reasons I still see her are in connection with them and our grandchildren. These dealings appear friendly. They are polite, respectful, and considerate in manner but not personal or intimate. If she was interested in negotiating something more friendly, fair and honest I would invest the time but I see little or no indication of interest on her behalf. I am not polyamorist. If she wants "open" relationships she can have as many men as she wants, other than me. In a fair game, you can not move the goalposts after the start of play. I have no desire to demonize her. Perhaps the simple truth is we married too young and are just not suited to one another.
Groot19 · 41-45, F
U said it correct but also a person should not hurt the significant other... if not happy leave...
will999 · 70-79, M
@Groot19 Hi there. I agree. It is painful to let go of someone you love who wants to leave especially if they can't or won't explain why they want to leave but if you can't trust them the game's over, ready or not. My new motto is - [quote]Never cheat someone who trusts you. Never trust someone who cheats you.[/quote] I should be over this by now. I would be if we didn't have kids in common. I have no desire to do physical harm or damage to her but if I admit that I still care, I am fair game.
Groot19 · 41-45, F
True
iamnikki · 31-35, F
wow, sorry about that. Was this recent? She must be alot younger. When did you marry?
QueenOfSmiles · 46-50, F
@iamnikki I wondered the same things...
will999 · 70-79, M
@iamnikki Hello. I was 22 and she was 17 when we married. I am still in contact with my two now adult children, it is the only reason I still see my EX. We are more than 30 years separated. 22 was definately too young to deal with all the in's and out's of a marriage commitment. She recently suggested we get together again but I tactfully dismissed the idea. Like it or not I still have to deal with the situation since we have 2 adult children and 2 grandchildren in common. If not for the kids I wouldn't see her at all which would be much simpler. I am eager to avoid any conflict with her that would upset my childrren. Diplomacy is my only option. what else can I do?
2cool4school · 46-50, F
@will999 I'm so sorry
2cool4school · 46-50, F
I'm so sorry this makes me cry to read.

 
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