I believe bonding with a newborn is a very special process
The immediate hours after birth and first few weeks are import to for mother, baby, father and siblings.
Skin to skin is important
As well as learning each other鈥檚 cue鈥檚
But over the weekend I learned that 24hrs after my mother had me she sent me to Milwaukee to stay with my grandmother 馃様
I mean I already knew she didn鈥檛 want me because she told me as much a few years ago, but to the point where she sent me away to my grandparents over 2 hours away, yeah, I didn鈥檛 even know that.
I feel like this explains a lot of the disconnect we have between us. She鈥檚 never been motherly to me and being a narcissist I鈥檝e always been the scapegoat.
She had me via c section, which I know is a rough recovery, but to the point I got sent away for the fist few months of my life?
If my grandmother couldn鈥檛 stay with my mom to help her care for me, why didn鈥檛 she go stay with my grandmother too?
I鈥檝e been adamant about not wanting anyone to come visit for long periods after I have the baby, this time for me is sacred. It is to my husband and children too.
A quick short visit by those who have been fully vaccinated is welcome after our 2 week bonding time. My aunt is coming from Mexico to care for me. But she will be staying with my mom until the 2 week period is over. The first 2 weeks my family needs to get into its own rhythm and my husband will be the one taking care of us.
Idk I just feel like learning this has really set the whole picture for me of why my mother never cared for me or protected me from her abusive husband, it all makes sense now.
Skin to skin is important
As well as learning each other鈥檚 cue鈥檚
But over the weekend I learned that 24hrs after my mother had me she sent me to Milwaukee to stay with my grandmother 馃様
I mean I already knew she didn鈥檛 want me because she told me as much a few years ago, but to the point where she sent me away to my grandparents over 2 hours away, yeah, I didn鈥檛 even know that.
I feel like this explains a lot of the disconnect we have between us. She鈥檚 never been motherly to me and being a narcissist I鈥檝e always been the scapegoat.
She had me via c section, which I know is a rough recovery, but to the point I got sent away for the fist few months of my life?
If my grandmother couldn鈥檛 stay with my mom to help her care for me, why didn鈥檛 she go stay with my grandmother too?
I鈥檝e been adamant about not wanting anyone to come visit for long periods after I have the baby, this time for me is sacred. It is to my husband and children too.
A quick short visit by those who have been fully vaccinated is welcome after our 2 week bonding time. My aunt is coming from Mexico to care for me. But she will be staying with my mom until the 2 week period is over. The first 2 weeks my family needs to get into its own rhythm and my husband will be the one taking care of us.
Idk I just feel like learning this has really set the whole picture for me of why my mother never cared for me or protected me from her abusive husband, it all makes sense now.
36-40, F
