Is my friend ghosting me?

I have a friend. Nothing remotely bad has ever happened between us. I've known her for about 10 years.Sometimes we go couple months without speaking. She reaches out to me slightly more than I reach out to her but I always listen to her, encourage her and I have really really been there for her in body and spirt thru some major life events which just last time she meantioned this to me how I have always been there for her.

I visited her about 2 months ago at her new house. We chatted. I told her I was happy for her.
6 wks ago she texted me asking for a referral to a mechanic. I gave it to her.
Thats the last I heard from her.
I texted her as usual last week saying Hi. I got nothing. I waited 3 days and texted Hi again asking hows everything. No response.
We often go 2 months without speaking and she works nights so I think maybe she forgot to respond (never happen before)
I waited till today and left her a voicemail and sent a Whatsapp.
I will leave it at that.
She stayed with me for a month last year in between moves. She has a man in her life now for more than 6 months. Could he be a reason?
Am I being ghosted? Have I reached out to her too much or just right?

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LadyGrace

I don't think you've done anything wrong. People get tied up at times and yes, a new man in her life could be taking up her time. That just seems to happen automatically. I know this is hurtful, but she may just be feeling a bit overwhelmed, trying to keep up with everything. I'm sorry this happened and you're hurting, but at least you know she's ok. I don't think she's ghosting you. If she's a real friend, she'll come around. You've let her know you miss her, so try not to worry. You've done your part, so try to relax, take care of yourself, and keep busy. I think she'll come around. And I think she would have let you know if she was upset. I think I'd let her make the next move. Hopefully, she'll miss you and give you a call. I wish you the best. 🤗

REMsleep · 41-45, F

Update: She just got back to me. She said that she could never be mad at me but that she was in a rut and just can't talk right now. Makes me feel better on one hand but she has never told me this so Im sure she is in a really bad place mentally

Fairydust · F

@REMsleep I’m glad you feel at peace now, sounded like she’s going through a bad time.. 😍🥰🤗

FaeLuna · 31-35, F

It's possible, I suppose. Maybe she's busy and simply forgot to respond. Maybe something's going on with this guy. Maybe she's just having a hard time and can't deal with social interactions at the moment. I think you've done what you can to keep the friendship alive, and now it's up to her to continue it. Without knowing what's going on on her side, it's tough to really say what she's doing.

Fairydust · F

Aw I’m sorry thats hard, she might be in a bad place? Or really really busy, did she open the what’s app message? 🤗

REMsleep · 41-45, F

@Fairydust Yup I show that she read the message 1 hour ago. Very strange and hurtful. Im clueless about anything I could have done. Maybe Im not in contact enough but our last interaction was totally positive

Fairydust · F

@REMsleep it’s hard times with the virus. Lots of people will be going through a lot, I’m sure she’ll get in touch when she’s ready, I’ve been there myself and shut people out. You’re a good friend, reaching out shows that and she’ll know. 🤗🤗🤗

GohantheThird · M

Some people just drift appart. It happens and it's not something you should take personally. Don't worry about it.

iamnikki · 31-35, F

Hmm, sounds like you've reached out to her enough.
Maybe she lost her phone or something?
Have you figured it out?

Sublearner · 31-35, F

Sounds like you tried I guess try to find another friend.

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