Why am I caring and supporting to people that treat me badly in my life?

They treat me so badly but I can’t stop worrying about them especially when they vent their emotions. It gets to me @nonsensiclesnail

@Itsjustbrit I was raised with the belief that if someone doesn't like something it is my fault; because of something I did or did not do and it is my job to make it right.
Even now when my husband is mad or doing something that is contrary to what I am doing, I feel it is my job to join him or support him in some way.
Do you know what total horse shit this is?
Are you aware of how wrong and backwards this thinking is?
It is really hard to unlearn - to do differently.
so, with that said, I know it is much easier to say than do.
Stop trying to make them happy. Stop trying to prove to them that you are worthy.
You are worthy and their thoughts and actions are their own. They are not you.

I believe I already did but I still treat others kindly no matter if they treated me awful@raysam363

@Itsjustbrit Can't compromise yourself. If it works out, great. However some people don't deserve kindness, so don't waste too much energy on them.

@SW-User people dont really change for the long term.. just sayin

@OCguy I know but just wondering

@SW-User one can hope :)