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DunningKruger · 61-69, M
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@DunningKruger Cognitive dissonance is a side effect, I agree.
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
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@DunningKruger That is true
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@Pinkstarburst 😂 So frustrating yes.
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
Well the term "open minded" means very different things to different people. But in the sense that you are open to having your ideas challenged and discussed in a respectful manner, I see no disadvantages. Only by being open minded can we learn and expand our own understanding.
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@sarabee1995 Isn't a moral compass subject to the grey area if you're open minded?
E.g and this is the clichiest of examples.. stealing is wrong. But you'd be more tolerant of someone who steals because he has to feed his children.
This is how wiki defines it, and to me it covers the moral area. Values are moralistic.
[quote]Open-mindedness is receptiveness to new ideas. Open-mindedness relates to the way in which people approach the views and knowledge of others, and in the words of Dean Tjosvold "incorporate the beliefs that others should be free to express their views and that the value of others’ knowledge should be recognized."[/quote]
E.g and this is the clichiest of examples.. stealing is wrong. But you'd be more tolerant of someone who steals because he has to feed his children.
This is how wiki defines it, and to me it covers the moral area. Values are moralistic.
[quote]Open-mindedness is receptiveness to new ideas. Open-mindedness relates to the way in which people approach the views and knowledge of others, and in the words of Dean Tjosvold "incorporate the beliefs that others should be free to express their views and that the value of others’ knowledge should be recognized."[/quote]
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@SW-User I think your Wiki quote is perfectly in line what I described in my example. Receptiveness to new ideas means listening respectfully to those ideas and considering them; it does not mean blindly accepting them as equivalent in your life to your own ideas. I firmly believe that all should be:
[quote]"free to express their views and that the value of others’ knowledge should be recognized."[/quote]
So yes, this is being open minded.
But then, once those views are expressed and considered, then YOU need to make a decision for YOUR life based on YOUR moral compass. Making that decision does not in any way reduce your open mindedness. But in the opinion of people with no moral compass it does. That's why I said that "open minded" means different things to different people.
Extreme example: Let's take a 100% straight guy. He has zero attraction to other guys at all. Let's say he open mindedly discusses sexuality options and the pros/cons of each and at the end of that conversation he concludes that he personally has no interest in trying anything but women. Does that mean he is not open minded? No, not at all. But to some, it does. I disagree with those people.
Open minded is to consider. It is not to abrogate the decision making to someone else.
[quote]"free to express their views and that the value of others’ knowledge should be recognized."[/quote]
So yes, this is being open minded.
But then, once those views are expressed and considered, then YOU need to make a decision for YOUR life based on YOUR moral compass. Making that decision does not in any way reduce your open mindedness. But in the opinion of people with no moral compass it does. That's why I said that "open minded" means different things to different people.
Extreme example: Let's take a 100% straight guy. He has zero attraction to other guys at all. Let's say he open mindedly discusses sexuality options and the pros/cons of each and at the end of that conversation he concludes that he personally has no interest in trying anything but women. Does that mean he is not open minded? No, not at all. But to some, it does. I disagree with those people.
Open minded is to consider. It is not to abrogate the decision making to someone else.
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@sarabee1995 Ah. That makes more sense and I totally agree with you.
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
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@sarabee1995 I think his theory is the basis of how we see things. 😁
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Axelerator · 26-30, M
If it's in relation to being more tolerant towards things or people the main one would be a risk of alienation or prejudice from anyone with a more closeminded viewpoint.
If you mean open with trying new experiences and thinking in different ways, there's a risk of experiencing bad or negatively changing things.
There's disadvantages to everything though, and these would be two superficial examples perhaps.
If you mean open with trying new experiences and thinking in different ways, there's a risk of experiencing bad or negatively changing things.
There's disadvantages to everything though, and these would be two superficial examples perhaps.
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@Axelerator Indeed, thank you
HazPassportForYourGalaxy · 46-50, M
It's easier to become stuck in a place with two choices you deem to be both of merit.
This can result in a time-consuming dissection of the whole kit and kaboodle. At some point, you may go eeek at the time wasted and amount of pieces created in the process and abandon the whole thing.
That said there is, of course, a lot of good things about open-mindedness too.
This can result in a time-consuming dissection of the whole kit and kaboodle. At some point, you may go eeek at the time wasted and amount of pieces created in the process and abandon the whole thing.
That said there is, of course, a lot of good things about open-mindedness too.
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@HazPassportForYourGalaxy Oh yeah, so many advantages, especially inner growth.
But it is the disadvantages we're not always aware of because they're not easily spoken of.
But it is the disadvantages we're not always aware of because they're not easily spoken of.
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@SW-User Indeed.
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@energie 🥴😂
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sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
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@sarabee1995 What really beats me is why people get emotional over topics that are not personal. Take slights and then make it about them instead of what is being discussed. And then, they use passive aggressive statements... ah. It's a waste of time here sometimes. A distraction from what I really wanted to get more of a handle of.
Doesn't matter. :) Thank you for that confirmation I wasn't being 'nasty'. I certainly have no intention of it.
Doesn't matter. :) Thank you for that confirmation I wasn't being 'nasty'. I certainly have no intention of it.
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@SW-User Nope, just direct. But yeah, a lot of people can't handle direct. I've also learned that lesson the hard way. 🤷♀️