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Ever begged someone to stay in your life ?

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F Best Comment

Yes, a couple of times. The first time, my first boyfriend said "Now don't make me feel bad," and then he started purposely acting kind of like a jerk, to try to make me stop liking him. And then, 17 years later, we reconnected for a little while, and he wanted me back, but I didn't have those same feelings anymore. I just wanted to be friends.

The other time, the guy really WAS a jerk. I think he was probably laughing at me, though I couldn't know for sure, as the whole thing happened online.

Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F

No. I'm not one to force relationships. I move on if they don't want me

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Yes, we were married 20 years and she had terminal breast cancer. She left me to die on her own. I wanted to say goodbye and be with her at the end, but I only found out she was about to die from reading her last post on facebook from her hospital bed saying this is it.

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SweetMae · 70-79, F

@SW-User I am so sorry. It is very hard when you can't say goodbye.

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@SW-User Thank you! Yes you are right, nobody can take away those good memories... there were so many.

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@SweetMae Thank you too, yes i think not being able to say goodbye or find out why she wanted to leave me right at the end is what is the hardest.

chuck7882 · 61-69, M

I tried that a long time ago and I found that only pushed them further away

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@chuck7882 I’m sorry x I hope you meet someone who stays for a very long time x some people are only chapters in our life’s , the ones who stay are very rare and hard to find x

chuck7882 · 61-69, M

@SW-User looking back, I'm lucky things didn't work out with her. We were not a fit and neither one of us would have been happy

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@chuck7882 at least you discovered that for yourself x many loose diamonds in the search of stones

Genieinabottle · 51-55, M

Yes, she disappeared anyway. It took four years but she came back. After four years without her I was a broken man, she was repulsed by what I had become. I don't really know what she expected. Maybe I was supposed to thrive after my heart was ripped out. When she left me I would wake up in the middle of the night and weep and eat cookies. I turned fat, unstable and a drug user to kill the pain. No wonder she couldn't stand to look at me when she came back. I just don't know why she ever decided to come back after four years stay fucking gone.

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I’m so sorry but thank you for sharing that with me. I wish you happiness and I hope you find inner peace @Genieinabottle

AngelKrish · 26-30, M

Yes! I begged somehow but now i don't beg... I just let them stay or go... Its all their choice.... But i will not let you go away 🤗

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AngelKrish · 26-30, M

@SW-User x? What that x means tell me please 😇

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@AngelKrish kisses 😘

AngelKrish · 26-30, M

@SW-User 🥰 😘 kisses for you!

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Yes it was an obvious mistake

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What happened?@SW-User

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@SW-User I was emotionally dependent

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@SW-User abit like me then 🤗

Rutterman · 46-50, M

No. I'm not interested in trying to persuade someone to stay if they really want to go.

dreamsicle · 46-50, F

No but I’ve begged someone to leave me alone.

CrimsonDemon · 36-40, M

Yeah and It didn't work so I told her husband she was still married to... True story lol 😂

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😂 how did that go down ?@CrimsonDemon

CrimsonDemon · 36-40, M

@SW-User its a long story but I'm still waiting on my sapena paper to their divorce court date lol

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@CrimsonDemon oh ok x

thearhyss · 36-40, F

In a way... but he didn't get the message.

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thearhyss · 36-40, F

"I will not use my...our child for you to make the choice to continue what we have" I told him.

He replied.. "I just don't know who to choose."

"There you go again... when you're with me you're saying you're leaving them. " the girl..- that girl ..

So I've decided to pack all my things ...went home to my hood. Didn't even think about looking back.

Funny enough I still have dreams of that day... dfferent scenario ... same ending.

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@thearhyss wow. Thank you for sharing that with me. I admire your inner strength x

thearhyss · 36-40, F

@SW-User but in that very moment.. I wanted to grab the knife and imagines killing both of them.

Those imaginings....

wackidywack · 22-25

Yup but they left, came back after a long while. We're good friends now

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Not directly. But when I think back, it was something of that sort.

SweetMae · 70-79, F

Just once. It turned out to be a mistake.

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What happened?@SweetMae

SageWanderer · 70-79, M

No, not worth the effort if they want to go.

canusernamebemyusername · M

Yes. An ex.

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How did it go down ?@canusernamebemyusername

canusernamebemyusername · M

@SW-User Left anyway. Took me five years to get over though:/

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Yes when I was 16 and stupid and cried and begged them to stay..... Omg!!!!!! 😳 Telling them I would die without them!!

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@SW-User bad

MartinTheFirst · 22-25, M

@SW-User you're still the same

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@MartinTheFirst I'm not that sensitive nor to that point of telling them I'd die. Or beg.

PiecingBabyFaceTogether · 26-30

Once.

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I have

KidAzazel · 26-30

I never could bring myself to do it. As painful as it's been for some people to leave my life, I'd feel even shittier if I had guilted them into staying in it

masterofyou · 70-79, M

I have been hurt, but I feel if it didn't work out after all the good things I have done, it just wasn't meant to be...

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@masterofyou what happened?

shaelan · 41-45, M

Yes.

Didn't work out so well.

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@shaelan what happened?

shaelan · 41-45, M

@SW-User she moved on.

shaelan · 41-45, M

@SW-User sorry, it's too convoluted to get into or summarize. Begging rarely works, and although she's not happy with her new situation, that's where she wants to stay. Hence, what's a guy to do?