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Am I a bad person?

Some dude I've never talked to before sends me a message giving hints that he wants to off load whatever is bothering him and I made it clear I'm not interested. The problem is I changed my mind after a few minutes and when I went to tell him this I found that he'd blocked me. The last time someone came to me with their problems and I gave them advice they didn't appreciate it so I told myself I wouldn't entertain anymore random messages from people.

[c=#A69800][b]Does this make me a bad person?[/b][/c]
ABCDEF7 · M Best Comment
No. But you should learn to give advice without expecting anything in return.

ABCDEF7 · M
@karysma Hugs

Take care..
karysma · 31-35, F
@ABCDEF7 You too.🙂
ABCDEF7 · M
@karysma Thanks. 🙂

Lackwittyname · 51-55, M
No, this does not make you a bad person. You were honest that you were not interested, sill to be blocked for that. This is not a therapists office, if people want to help others, fine, if not, that is fine too. As you said, when you have done this before the person did not appreciate the advice and you can feel it is pointless.
madmax83 · 41-45, M
Naw, you don't owe him anything.
Virgo79 · 61-69, M
Just makes you another person that learned from mistakes and wasn't going to do it again.
Not bad at all.
karysma · 31-35, F
@Virgo79 What?
Virgo79 · 61-69, M
[@kayrysma] i think I was wise.
Could have been the same mistake twice.
The way I see it, first time is just a mistake, second time is my fault😁
karysma · 31-35, F
@Virgo79 I've kinda done it to several people. I just didn't want to waste my time talking to someone only to feel stupid afterwards
2fast4love · M
I honestly don't know why people do that. Maybe I'm a bad person but I don't have the answers to some of my own problems
karysma · 31-35, F
@2fast4love I know right but then again maybe they don't have anybody to talk to
SW-User
I don’t know what to say. I can see both sides to this. You reacted due to past experiences so you was defending yourself and stopping yourself from being used. You told him straight out what your intentions was and you didn’t lead him on into thinking you would help and be there for him. I can understand why he would be upset as he maybe didn’t have anyone else to talk to and he maybe thought you was the right person to go to and he trusted you with his problems even though he didn’t get chance to talk to you about them.
karysma · 31-35, F
@SW-User I didn't exactly tell him straight out what my intentions were. He said [c=#003BB2][b]My life is odd[/b][/c] and I was like [c=#BF0080][b]Is that so[/b][/c] and he was like [c=#003BB2]Most of the time haha [/c] and I was like [c=#BF0080][b]I see[/b][/c]

Maybe I was a bit rude
SW-User
Nope... not at all
And him blocking you right away is good sign you made the right decision
karysma · 31-35, F
@SW-User I knew if I gave him an ear I'd regret it
SW-User
@karysma you made the right call
SheikYerbouti · 51-55, M
No. I wouldn't want to get involved in somebody's weird drama.
abe182 · 46-50, M
If he blocked you because you said no, wow not worth your worry.
SW-User
No it doesn’t. You aren’t required to be a therapist to strangers.
CaptainKirk · 41-45, M
No, he’s just being a whiny bitch
cravingbodynsoul · 41-45, M
Not at all. Don't stress. You are good
Lucia · 36-40, T
No. Not at all. You did the right thing.
SW-User
Naw.. your Just being open and honest
Zonuss · 41-45, M

 
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