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other women not wanting kids?

I never want to have children and yes I know people always say your 23 your still young. I never liked children as a kid I did not play family, I still do not like or want children. I hate how much pressure there is from my family and anyone who meets me to have children. I keep telling them i do not want any, its not a legal requirement to have children. I hate when people say you will change your mind.the thing that really hurts me is that my parents say your takeing away my ability to be a grandparent and continue our bloodline. I do not want to hurt my parents but if i have a child i will be hurting the child because i would be a bad parent. you should not have children unless you really want children. Anyone elce feel like they never want to have children?
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nonsensiclesnail · F
Never wanted them either.
I have a difficult time understanding why other people do want them.

Mind you, I have them. I was not and am not a perfect mom. But I did and do my job. My eldest son has a son now, and he is wonderful. But I hope there are no more grandchildren in my future.
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Girlyfriendcollecting · F
@nonsensiclesnail I feel that way too, I'm not maternal and I do not understand why people would want them. My parents both are the really children loving people and I don't get it. At least you will never pressure your kids to have children. its hard for many people with children to understand how people that don't want children feel.
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morrgin · F
I ended up having two. I do have a friend who dreamed if she had a child it would have severe problems so she has never kids. Another friend I always thought she would have a bunch of kids. Children just swarm around her naturally. She was a nanny for a long time. Now she wants to one day adopt teenage girls with behavior problems. I think she's crazy. You might change your mind one day or you might not. It's your life. Live it how you want to live and not how others expect you to live it. Deciding not to have children for whatever reason is a responsible and mature choice.
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Bean17 · 46-50, F
I really wanted to have kids and then I really did NOT want to have kids and then I had kids.😅 I had decided I did not want to have them because of how f-ed up this life and this world is and I was not wrong. There have been many moments over the course of being a mom for nearly 20 years where I have thought to myself—what the hell have I done??? I love my kids more than life itself but honestly it’s the most stressful, daunting experience ever! If you don’t want kids—don’t have kids!! Like for realz. Everyone else (including your parents) can just kiss your ass. It’s your life—you make the decisions that are best for you! And everyone else will just have to deal.😁
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Girlyfriendcollecting · F
@Bean17 yea, thanks😀 I just wish this feeling of guilt and feeling bad would go away, 😢my parents told me that i am taking away their chance to become grandparents and i am breaking off our bloodline. I keep telling myself kids only effect me and the kid but I feel like i am hurting my parents. I dont want to hurt them but they cant expect children from me thats unfair. if they want a child they can get a child and raise it, but i guess for them its about the blood line. I dont understand why its bothering me so much every time i think about it I tell myself there is nothing to feel bad about your doing nothing wrong but yet the feeling is still there. 😫
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Bean17 · 46-50, F
I can understand your feeling guilty about disappointing your parents. And weirdly I can also understand your parent’s disappointment about the possibility of never having grandchildren.😅 But ultimately it’s such a major life decision and commitment to have and to raise children that that pretty much tops everything else. It just is what it is. I hope eventually both you and your parents can make peace with and come to a place of acceptance about your decision. 🤗@Girlyfriendcollecting
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Girlyfriendcollecting · F
@Bean17 yea thats good its good to have kids just not for me.
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ZenKitzune · F
I have them, even though I tried everything to prevent it lol. I'm not naturally maternal but I've learned over time to be a better mother. Nobody should be forced or made to feel bad for their choices, it's your life.
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Girlyfriendcollecting · F
@ZenKitzune yea I hear that often from people that they learn to become maternal and become a better person because of their children, but my mom talks to some women who had children through accidental pregnancy and regretted it. I wish I did not feel bad for the choice of not having kids but its eating away at my conscious.
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ZenKitzune · F
@Girlyfriendcollecting I regretted it for the longest time but I was in a pretty bad place. The trouble with regret is that it can come and go throughout life and you can never be sure where it will pop up.
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Girlyfriendcollecting · F
@ZenKitzune yea you never know what your life would have been like without children, I often think do I regret the college i picked or not and i can not decide because i do not know what it would have been like if i didn't go to college.v
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Morninglory69 · 36-40, M
I’m 80% don’t want 20% maybe want, ive always thought if you find the right person and things go well then it’s always a possibility. The true special someone should make you a better person and together probably be great parents, but I have no feelings of wanting to have children or desire to be a father to take that responsibility and pressure scares me. It does play on my mind that my family surname could die with me and the family tree line will end there forever but you have to be 100% willing, wanting and committed to have a child.
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Mondayschild · F
I made the same choice to not have kids and I have never regretted that decision.
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Gangstress · 41-45, F
I never wanted them or felt maternal
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frequentlyme · 70-79, M
I never particularly wanted or didn't want children, but I had them, and I can't imagine a life without them. On the other hand, you attitude is perfect for you, and there is nothing wrong with how you feel.
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Crazywaterspring · 61-69, M
Your life your choice. However, always use protection. You know what is best for you.
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Girlyfriendcollecting · F
@Crazywaterspring yea thanks exactly, I tell people I think I'm going to make a bad mother and they are like no you will be a fantastic mother and I'm like how do you know? and they say you change when you have children you love them even if you hate all other children. But if that is not the case for me then i am stuck raising a kid who is going to have an unhappy life and that is worse then never finding out the joys of having a child.
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Tuscan · 70-79, M
There is no reason why anyone who does not want to have children should do so.
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luv2fly352 · 70-79, M
For whatever it's worth; I support you 100%!
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Girlyfriendcollecting · F
@luv2fly352 thank you
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ASouthernGentleman · 31-35, M
I knew I didn’t want children when I was a teenager. Thankfully, my parents didn’t care. My sister is married and she does not want children either. It’s your life, people need to respect you for decisions. Not every single one of us needs to have kids. Remember Robert Frost, I came upon a fork in the woods and I took the path less traveled bye and it has made all the difference.
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NunIover
Fuck them cunts ,it's your life ,tell them to have another kid if they are worried about a blood line
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