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Keraunos · 36-40, M
Depends on what you mean by "caring". If you stop caring completely, you will end up completely isolated, and probably dead or incarcerated, in no time at all.
If you mean worrying on principle about whether or not they like you with [i]your[/i] feelings on that being at stake, I'm not sure. I pretty much stopped paying attention to this stuff at age thirteen, and had to make some serious effort to relearn a bit of it later in life. I wouldn't have done anything differently for myself, but I can't say it's for everyone. Most would probably do well to move at least few inches farther into my end of the spectrum, though, and better late than never as far as that goes. There are a great deal of "problems" people have as a result of being over on the other end of it which seem to cause them real anxiety and sadness, but which usually appear to me as melodramatic, frivolous nonsense that never required their participation in the first place — essentially things only a child should get be capable of getting that upset about (maybe because that's when I stopped having these experiences).
Neurological wiring accounts for a lot more of your limitations than you realize though, and there probably do exist people who are nearly incapable of getting out of that mentality, so you've got to keep that in mind as well and cut them some slack.
If you mean worrying on principle about whether or not they like you with [i]your[/i] feelings on that being at stake, I'm not sure. I pretty much stopped paying attention to this stuff at age thirteen, and had to make some serious effort to relearn a bit of it later in life. I wouldn't have done anything differently for myself, but I can't say it's for everyone. Most would probably do well to move at least few inches farther into my end of the spectrum, though, and better late than never as far as that goes. There are a great deal of "problems" people have as a result of being over on the other end of it which seem to cause them real anxiety and sadness, but which usually appear to me as melodramatic, frivolous nonsense that never required their participation in the first place — essentially things only a child should get be capable of getting that upset about (maybe because that's when I stopped having these experiences).
Neurological wiring accounts for a lot more of your limitations than you realize though, and there probably do exist people who are nearly incapable of getting out of that mentality, so you've got to keep that in mind as well and cut them some slack.
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Thodsis · 51-55, M
As young as possible.
Allelse · 36-40, M
All their life.
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