I Am Working On Myself

Be sincere with them. They cannot possibly understand what you are going through. To lose people that close twice in a row would be soul-crushing. It makes me tear up just hearing about it. I'm so sorry for your losses and I hope you're doing as well as you can now.
I would tell them that I need time to process this. These are severe wounds and I would even recommend seeing a counselor or something along those lines. If you did you could tell your friends that you are seeking professional help and as much as you value their opinions, they should leave the situation be and allow you to handle it.

WOW. I’m so sorry that you went through that. However, this does show that you’re an immensely STRONG person. To lose one spouse, I would assume to be very tough. But to be able to gather yourself back together and give love another chance? That’s a lot of strength in and of itself. And to then go through it again and preserve your sanity. I wish that I had your strength. You have my condolences for your loss.

Sorry to hear that. I've been widowed once and that's difficult enough to get over. I've experienced the same thing too with friends and family trying to set me up. It got to the point where when they'd invite me over for dinner i'd be wondering who'd they'd have also invited.

Damn. I thought once was bad. My condolences. Just cuz they want to try to hook you up, doesn't mean you're obligated to go with it. I wouldn't rule anything out, but give your mind and spirit breathing room. What happens, happens. Just my two cents worth.

More than another husband you probably need a lot of healing.

LOOK inside and find yourself!

I’m sorry for your loss.
Just tell them right out that you do not want them to set you up!!

Ask them not to, as you’re not ready. If they persist, they’re not respecting your wishes, and real friends don’t behave that way.

You may need to remind them of that. 😳

Limit your time with them

Can't you simply say "please don't"?

I’m so sorry for your loss