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Does it bother anyone else that "sleeping with someone" carries the connotation of sexual stuff?

I find myself wishing I could curl up with some people and sleep together. Sadly, "do you want to sleep with me" seems to be tied heavily to "we gon do it in the bootyhole."
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NinaSilver · 26-30, F
I definitely support the normalization of platonically, non-sexually sleeping together
deadpoolshady · 26-30, M
Yet another reason I get mad jealous of girls sometimes.
They tend to do this way more without it being weird.
NinaSilver · 26-30, F
@deadpoolshady: Instead of being mad at and jealous of girls, work to end toxic masculinity. That's why it's more socially acceptable for girls to platonically sleep together than for men.
deadpoolshady · 26-30, M
Tch, I wish guys were that respectful all the time.
I've seen the videos of what happens to a lot of women. Makes me want to hold back from saying it when someone's outfit catches my eye.
Guys don't even hug enough most of the time, and because of jerks we feel we need to seriously hold back from any female friends we happen to make so we don't give the wrong impression.
At least that's how I see it nowadays...
NinaSilver · 26-30, F
Yeah, it's really common for women to get creeped on. What I was referring to, though, was the aspect of toxic masculinity which socializes men to avoid anything considered 'weak' or 'feminine.' It's why a lot of dads tell their boy children that men don't cry, why a lot of men feel uncomfortable hugging their bros, etc. Anything emotional, platonically intimate, or anything like that is often seen as bad and unmanly. That's also true for anything that might in any way signal homosexuality, however much of a stretch that might be. There's a lot of fear of emasculation if a straight man is perceived as homosexual, so anything at all relating to that or men being close at all is often disdained and ostracized.

By comparison, women have shitty gender roles but they don't really have toxic masculinity. Something that does happen though is the delegitimization (and the fetishization) of female gay relationships. This is why girls can sleep together with less fear of it being considered sexual (but a lot of guys think all girls experiment with each other sexually or high school girl sleepovers are sexually-charged or what-have-you.)
deadpoolshady · 26-30, M
This here.
Glad a lot of things are starting to tear down some of these macho image walls - after all, even Jesus cried.
Caroline259 · 56-60, F
@deadpoolshady: Until fairly recently in the UK, it was a criminal offence for men to engage in public displays of affection for each other. Even a simple hug could, in theory, result in prosecution.
deadpoolshady · 26-30, M
Source now fam
That is insane. I always thought of the UK as more physically friendly - though now that I think about it... Guess not