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I Am Confused About My Feelings

Every time when I want to visit my parents my girlfriend will come up with an excuse for not going with me then at the last minute when it is time for me to leave she all of a sudden wants to go. This happens all the time! It causes fights and she won’t talk to me about it.
lily88mercy · 26-30, F
I know the behavior must drive you nuts regarding planning ahead, etc., but my advice if you want her to be comfortable enough to reveal whatever doubts or anxiety that cause her hesitation just get into your Zen Cool Mind and tell her, "Sweetie, coming or going, I love you just the same."

There is a lot of power in letting someone you love that you totally accept them even if they are being wacky.
lily88mercy · 26-30, F
@JS1992 you're welcome!
JS1992 · 31-35, M
I will try this. @lily88mercy
lily88mercy · 26-30, F
@JS1992 best of luck, JS!
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
Maybe she feels intimidated by your folks.
Maybe she'd rather stay home but then realises how bad that looks if she never goes.
So puts herself through a panic before deciding to go with you.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
@JS1992 Try not to worry. Sounds kinda normal tbh !
Lot of folk go through it.
I suspect it's a kind of 'test' mothers put their child's 'chosen one' through.
JS1992 · 31-35, M
Yah I am my moms only son so I get why my gf has the anxiety. But her not wanting to see my parents is making them feel bad. @Picklebobble2
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
@JS1992 lol. Best talk to them too then !
MaliaAgain · 36-40, F
Why would it cause a fight?
JS1992 · 31-35, M
Because it’s a constant thing that keeps happening @MaliaAgain
Maybe she wants to be the one who makes the choice to go. Do you ask her first and she then makes an excuse?
JS1992 · 31-35, M

 
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