I Am Confused About My Feelings

I recently broke up with my girlfriend, whom I've been with for over 6 years... I made that decision, I knew that the relationship was doomed for some time, but I just kept going, I kept trying to ignore its problems, even though some of them were heavily impacting me, such as her having issues with my family…

I ended up taking the final decision to break up, but that doesn’t stop me from thinking about it every day, I really miss her, I don’t think I’ve ever felt so lonely in my life to be quite frank… It was a logical decision, not an emotional one…

Now I’m torn apart because of it… And being completely honest, I’m so messy that I’m not even sure I’m suffering more because I miss her, or if its because of loneliness in itself… I’m an introvert when it comes to personal relationships (like, I’m fine at work and all, just not really in personal relationships), which pretty much prevents me from even trying to get to know anyone else…

I have several other personal probems, but this is the one thing that's constantly on my mind, I’m just lost, I have no idea what to do with my life…

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SoFine · 46-50, F

1. Forgive you, forgive her.....forgive the issues that came about.
2. Find those gaps, 5min, 10min, to walk in a park, field.......any outdoor place. Take time to hear your breath, inward, outward. A few mini breaks to just be.
3. On YouTube are many music healing meditation music. Try Numeditation, or Relax River, many to use, play them in your car or home.
4. The worth to meditate will pay of, the more you can have gaps of mind silence, the gaps that don't trap you in your mind, mulling over your life.

Get into movement, this also helps your brain make new connections. Movement will help you become more present to right now, right now, you cloud now with your life issues.

Each day is new, be open to the new, than the same over and over.

Vermilion · 31-35, M

@SoFine Thank you for the reply, I’ve made some comments regarding it
1 – I did, several times, but as neither she, nor my family seem to change, it would all go back to these situations with them…
2 – I began to do that, specially on weekends, when I’m not working, I usually take long walks, without any sort of end goal, I just begin walking around aimlessly for a few hours, it helps me clear my head a little, like putting my thoughts in order.
3 – That’s very good to know, I’ll look them up.
4 – Yeah, I’ll try that.

SoFine · 46-50, F

@Vermilion 1. The dynamics of other people, we can't have them change. The one to work on is you. How you be with the way situations are or not are as they should be.

These posts on YouTube listen to, some may help or not.
sadhguru
Echardt Tolle
Tom Watts

Your mind, your thoughts are the key to new possibilities that never happened before. If you apply the same thinking, nothing will change.

MightySizeQueen · 36-40, F

Go to therapy

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MightySizeQueen · 36-40, F

@Vermilion if there is a will, there is a way.

That's all I can say.

Vermilion · 31-35, M

@MightySizeQueen I think that’s simplifying things a bit too much, or else it’s the same to say that no one has problems, because after all “if there is a will, there is a way.”

But finding this website, and trying to at least express my feelings, I thought it would be a good place to start.

MightySizeQueen · 36-40, F

@Vermilion YouTube is a great place too

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