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ToSirwithLove · 31-35, F
Very hard for me, for years my mom kept me away from my dad and all she did was tell me lies. I never got the chance to meet him,, and when I did finally meet his family he had already died. I don't trust her, and it’s hard to have a relationship with someone you don't trust. I learned to love my mom from a distance because that's the way it has to be for my sanity. But, idk your situation with your mom, I hope you're able the work things out, if not I understand.
darkknightt · M
@ToSirwithLove I have worked out the things with my mom
ToSirwithLove · 31-35, F
@darkknightt I am glad to hear that! 😊
Grateful4you · M
Most folks here already heard my story of sexual abuse by my mom. So, I have no expertise. Luckily dad was kind and compassionate and provided the "mothering" Our mutual love of nature and sense of humor allowed him and I a thriving, intact relationship.
Reflection2 · 41-45, M
Listen more.
Don't react immediately. Stay clam.
Obey, even if you think it doesn't make sense.
On top of all. Focus on achieving your goals. A man is only recognised by his achievements.
Don't react immediately. Stay clam.
Obey, even if you think it doesn't make sense.
On top of all. Focus on achieving your goals. A man is only recognised by his achievements.
bijouxbroussard · F
darkknightt · M
@bijouxbroussard Well I think you are right both sides need to evolve
Peppa · 31-35, F
It's impossible when you have a parent see your sweetness (childlike behaviour) as a means to break you down.
I remember when I used to visit family members one aunt used to say stop talking in that baby voice. It used to really upset me because it wasn't. But I realise now the upbringing I had. That now at 29 I'm still treated like a child and then undermined, if I step out of 'line'.
I remember when I used to visit family members one aunt used to say stop talking in that baby voice. It used to really upset me because it wasn't. But I realise now the upbringing I had. That now at 29 I'm still treated like a child and then undermined, if I step out of 'line'.
Peppa · 31-35, F
@darkknightt I'm sorry about that.
Has something in particular happened?
In my situation when I really needed my mum up until 25 she was preoccupied and treated me like she could care less like I was a nuisance. Then I had a breakdown + my dad got sick and she's been playing all these odd games, not answering calls when I ring, and calling back hours later.
Not wanting to go out and do things then snapping when we do or implying I'm not appreciative.
If I want to be quiet in a crowd she will keep talking at me until I reply in a snappy way.
(I get it, she's annoyed that I exposed her behaviour and is trying to destroy my reputation)
Has something in particular happened?
In my situation when I really needed my mum up until 25 she was preoccupied and treated me like she could care less like I was a nuisance. Then I had a breakdown + my dad got sick and she's been playing all these odd games, not answering calls when I ring, and calling back hours later.
Not wanting to go out and do things then snapping when we do or implying I'm not appreciative.
If I want to be quiet in a crowd she will keep talking at me until I reply in a snappy way.
(I get it, she's annoyed that I exposed her behaviour and is trying to destroy my reputation)
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darkknightt · M
@Budwick thanks, I am trying to be more patient with her
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Adstar · 56-60, M
@darkknightt why? 😅😅🙂
4meAndyou · F
That depends on you...and them. I had a distant relationship with my father...but he, at least, was capable of showing affection once in a blue moon. And I had a very bad relationship with my mother. She was physically abusive toward me, and not a bit affectionate. I was constantly manipulated by her, and I hated it.
But she didn't seem to care, as long as I made her look good. She was a narcissist.
So I guess that if your parents are NOT narcissists, and they like you, it shouldn't be too hard.
But she didn't seem to care, as long as I made her look good. She was a narcissist.
So I guess that if your parents are NOT narcissists, and they like you, it shouldn't be too hard.
darkknightt · M
smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
Nanori · F
It's impossible
darkknightt · M
@Nanori I am trying to but everything seems to be messed up
bijouxbroussard · F
Donotfolowme · 51-55, F
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
I went through hell & high water to reach where we are. I’m closer than I ever thought I could be to a woman I planned on cutting off the moment I left their home. Sadly currently things may not be bad with the man who raised me but they also have endured some damage and that really created a sense of distance between us.