3 words that describe your mother

@LukeTheDuke More than once she whipped me from neck to ankle with a wire coat hanger until I was bloody then locked me in my room for the day. Once it was the closet when I was 6, but apparently my blood on the coats was bothersome so it was my room after that.

This is shocking, I’m sorry to hear that. Do you speak to her at all now that you’re an adult?@UckfayOuyayOotay

@LukeTheDuke Not for the last couple decades. Sometimes the best relationship is none at all.

Did she ruin your childhood? @BrattyMel

@LukeTheDuke I have my own family...... and I can’t complain...... life’s pretty good

Ah that’s great. God bless you and your family, and I hope you all give each other lots of laughs, hugs and support.@Miklee02

@LukeTheDuke we do 🤗
Thank you 🙏

@curiosi Wow. I think we may be siblings.

Sorry to hear that. @curiosi

@curiosi I'm sorry 😕...

Groovy ✌️@FreeSpirit1

That must be amazing. @Viqsteels

@LukeTheDuke It is i hope i get some of those characters and so much more.

I’m sure you will. @Viqsteels

Wow, that’s wonderful. You’ve been blessed. @JesseInTX

Very much so. She’s an amazing woman @LukeTheDuke

Really good to hear. @JesseInTX

Was her best enough for you, or did you feel unloved or unsupported? @soulsrespite

it was enough (: @LukeTheDuke

Glad to hear that. @soulsrespite

Has her best been good enough to make you feel supported and loved? @Melpomene

Wisdom is such a great quality to have in a mum. @latinbutterfly

@LukeTheDuke Thank you. I appreciate that.

You’re most welcome indeed. Enjoy the rest of your weekend.@quitwhendone

@LukeTheDuke You too.

@LukeTheDuke my mum is everything I aspire to be. The strongest woman I know who managed to stay so pure despite a very tough life growing up.

I hope that your aspirations are fulfilled and hope you have a wonderful life ahead. @Fantabulous

@LukeTheDuke 🤗

@LukeTheDuke You have to understand people in order to forgive them.

She was not able to express affection with anyone, except maybe with my father. She did not like to be touched, and her entire birth family was like that...no hugging, no kissing. When I was 11 years old she told me I was too old for goodnight kisses.

She fawned over the men in our family and became almost slavish toward them, whereas she considered me a second servant to the men and expected me to feel or be the same way.

She was a substitute school teacher, but she was very stern and mean to the kids she taught. They used to give her the worst classes because she was the only one who could control them, and when she came home she was so stressed out she would just snap and slap me for even speaking, or chase me to try to hit me.

She lost a child in between my brother and myself, and she became a weird combination of ten times more smothering than normal mothers when it came to going out or having fun, but extremely neglectful when it came to watching whether I was still outside playing in the yard. (I wasn't).

She also seemed to become jealous and competitive with me later on as I grew older. She tried to make me feel ugly and inadequate in appearance, but I believe now that it was because she felt she was ugly and inadequate. Neither of us were.

Well you’ve certainly analysed things well, which shows your reflectiveness and empathy. I’m sorry you had such a tough upbringing, but it seems like you have developed into a good human being through your own strength and work. God bless you. @4meAndyou

@LukeTheDuke May God bless you and keep you, and hold you in the palm of his hand.

So overall did she give you a good childhood? @CrazyMusicLover

@LukeTheDuke Yes, my both parents gave me the best they could. Yet I feel like something is missing. But that might be only my problem.

I hope you find the answer to what is missing. @CrazyMusicLover

Has this affected you badly? @Elandra77

@LukeTheDuke I am better than her opinion of me. I live my life on my teams-not hers. I raided my children to adulthood. I can throw a guilt trip right back at her.

I’m glad you’re living life on your own terms. @Elandra77

Did you feel unloved by her? @Keepitsimple

Not really. She did her best. We all do. I love her but do better in moderation.@LukeTheDuke

That seems very balanced and fair of you. @Keepitsimple

Did you enjoy growing up with her? @Harriet03

@LukeTheDuke She was fine then, its NOW!! 🤦‍♀️

Oh i see. Thanks for sharing.@Harriet03

Do you love her, even though you hate black skin colour? @SW-User

I love me mum!!@LukeTheDuke

Great, and she loves you I’m sure, so use that to love yourself, and better still go on to love others. @SW-User

Are you saying she’s an exaggerator or liar? @Midnightoker1

Did she ruin your childhood? @DearAmbellina2113

Was she like that for your entire childhood? Did you feel unloved? @SW-User

Why complicated? @SW-User

That’s wonderful to hear. @midnightsun

Sorry to hear she’s no longer alive. @texasdaddydom

Did her temper greatly overshadow her good qualities? @SW-User

I hope she had lots of faith and love to give you. @TheunderdogofNY

She sounds similar to mine. We’re lucky guys, but I really wish she wasn’t such a worrier about every thing. @DDonde

@LukeTheDuke Honestly I am really grateful I came from the household I did. I have heard so many horror stories year after year of broken homes.

Yes me too, I can’t imagine what’s it is like for people who don’t have that anchor. @DDonde